I only ask because in my local convenience store just now I came face to face with a former work colleague who IMO was just like that. I was the only woman at this place, surrounded by men and never had a single problem until I had to work alongside him. From the off was very arrogant, offhand and attempted to "put me in my place." I took it until one day I snapped, told him he was out of order and I wasn't prepared to be spoken to like that.
The response to that was off the scale, you know how when you usually stand up to bullies they back down, or are supposed to anyway? Well he exploded, red faced, bulging eyes, actually rocking back and forth ranting "who then fuck do YOU think you are?", "what the fuck is wrong with YOU?." amongst other things. I was for once rendered speechless, and was actually scared for my safety. I refused to work with him after that and left shortly aftewards.
It had to be because I was woman. He was was like that with anyone else and was indeed popular with everyone else there. It was bizarre and then first and only time I've ever encountered it. I know he had teenage daughters and I often wonder how he'd feel if a bloke spoke to them like that?
I should hate him for that but I see him for the pathetic creature he is. Short, bald, middle aged and borderline obese. With a really noticeable lisp. i actually pity him.
Sorry for rambling. Has anyone else evee encountered this?
AIBU?
To ask if you've ever met a man who showed genuine hatred towards women?
EmeraldThief · 05/05/2015 14:24
Yes, my father. When DD was born he didn't want to come and see her. He told me when I was about 12 that there was no point in educating some. This is a guy who's been supported for the last 35 years by my mother, a degree-educated professions woman 
. His hatred is so strong it's impervious to logic.
I've known a few. My ex BIL springs to mind. My father maybe but his own mother was a Saint who Could Do No Wrong. That said he didn't go and see her in the care home for the last few years of her life.
I've known a lot of angry misogynist men through work as well. So it's not just my family 
Yeap, he physically attacked me at work once when I refused to break the law to cover him.
He referred to women as slash, cunts, whores etc etc.
He hated me because I got promoted above him, the day in question I'd pulled him up, he done something that while it was fine that time was actually both dangerous and illegal and expected me to sign off on it.
I refused, he asked to speak to me in private, I agree to go in to a office that was on the main drag but refused to close the door, he backed me in to a corner and screamed and spat in my face for about 5 minutes, then when I tried to move he pinned me by the throat.
Co-workers had to call security to get him off me.
Scary bits.
When I then told my superior that I had called the police I was accused of over reacting; I had to go to A&E for the bruising on my neck, I couldn't talk over a whisper for about a week.
I refused to work with him after that and was threatened with a formal warning. I got an 'informal' warning for being off sick for 2 days post incident.
Really scary thing, we were both HCP's.
I followed it through, and he was slapped on the wrist by the NMC.
Despite have photographic evidence I got no-where with the police I was told it was a he says /she says. . . . (this was a few years ago, I know that at least in the local force attitudes have changed hugely)
Really scary thing x 1000
He's still practising, I wasn't the first woman he'd attacked physically, just the first to follow it up.
Really scary thing x 100,000
The amount of people who tried to justify his behaviour, I was the one in the wrong, I was ruining his life/ career etc. . . .
'Cause that's what women do isn't it, lie to get poor men in trouble......
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So even with witness statements, physical evidence etc I was still a liar/over reacting/ man hater.
Oddly enough when I'd ask them if they'd be happy for him to care for their Mother/Father/Daughter/Son/Themselves etc, I'd get a lot of huffing and puffing and then 9 times out of 10 well you must have done something to set him off. . . .
'Cause that's what you really want in a HCP, someone who can't control himself.
It's not till you're there that you realise how many people still find violence against women acceptable and/or the woman fault.
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