AIBU let me give you our day so far .....

[tobytomcat88]

6 am I get up with ds who has been up all night teething
by 9 am he is fed washed dressed I have brushed and mopped the kitchen floor , put a load of washing in fed myself played with ds and got him off 2 sleep for his nap. bf came down around 9.30 I mentioned going to the park as it's a nice day he complained it would be busy and there was a lot around the house 2 do and sits down in front of the TV with his breakfast (we have just moved in there is a lot to do) so I carry on, I feed ds a snack put the washing on the line do another load of washing empty and load the dishwasher go upstairs make our bed run and bath wash my hair dry my hair and get dressed bf and ds still on the couch and it's midday. am I being hormonal?? but am I living with a lazy knob? in half an hour ds will want feeding bf will pass him 2 me while he gets dressed. If I say anything I get its my day off ...... I'm on maternity so everyday is a day off 2 me apparently
grrrrr I may have just needed to rant

[cardibach]

It's not mid day by the way...
YABU to rush round doing loads of jobs if he isn't.
He INBU to want a lazy start.
Depends how he is normally I suppose.

[tobytomcat88]

I have 2 rush around and do them my ds gets very clingy in the afternoon if things aren't done in the morning they don't get done.

[Dowser]

He's a lazy knob op and he will be a lazy knob without a comfortable billet if he doesn't pull his socks up.

Next time he's off, hand him the baby have a bath and get dressed for town and announce you're having a days shopping withmum/ sister / friend.

[hedgehogsdontbite]

Yes you're living with a lazy knob.

My DH got up at 6.00 so I could have a lie. Brought me coffee in bed at 8. Handed DS to me around 9.00 and has since cut the hedges, done the shopping and is now digging the garden so I can plant my vegetables this afternoon while he takes DS for a walk in the forest.

[tobytomcat88]

If I went shopping nothing would get done the amount of times he has complain about the babies room smelling but does he change te nappy bin ?!? no

we are in our third week living here he has never used the washer , dishwasher , cooker or hoover

[DevaDiva]

Nothing wrong with a lazy bank holiday but you shouldn't run around doing everything. Sounds like he's a lazy knobber if he hasn't done laundry/washing up in 3 weeks.

You need to talk to him and point this out, if he doesn't change then you need to reevaluate.

[AgentProvocateur]

Why are you letting him get away with doing nothing? Why are you doing it all? Just stop. You're being a martyr and he is being a lazy dickhead. Go out to a friend's house and tell him you're not coming back till he starts pulling his weight. Stop washing his clothes. Stop cooking his meals. Or just get rid of him.

[Goldenmilk]

Can I just say - I'm in bed. I put s wash load on and have brushed my teeth. That's IT.

I am not lazy. I work full time. Monday-Friday 8:30-4. Then, on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday evenings I work in my second job 6:30-9:30. At weekends, I work all day. I'll be at work later too.

How DARE some of you label someone sitting down as lazy? He might be - I don't know; he might be an unemployed lazy arse who does nothing - but someone else running around like a blue arsed fly doesn't make someone sitting down 'lazy.'

I won't be labelling you lot lazy when I go to work later so why am I lazy, or the OPs boyfriend? It might - might be that he works just as hard as she does.

[AgentProvocateur]

I'm labelling him as lazy because he's never used the cooker, washer, dishwasher or Hoover in three weeks. I presume they've eaten off clean plates and worn clean clothes...

PS - I'm also in bed, drinking a cup of tea that DH brought me.

[hedgehogsdontbite]

You're quite right Goldenmilk. I apologise. I just assumed that if this was the occasional behaviour of a normally hard working, non lazy, partner the OP wouldn't be posting about it on here.

[tobytomcat88]

goldenmilk
he does work hard but why shouldn't the chores be shared?