DH and I have been married for five years, 2DCs.
I am currently a SAHM but will have to find work soon. DH works.
Since we married he has taken a 4 year course abroad, during some of which I lived with PILs and DC1 and worked to support him.
He finished study a year ago and returned to his old job. However he is not happy and is looking for other work. All fine with me.
The problem is that although he has had no luck since starting to look six months ago he is spending all his time and lots of money on the search.
He usually finishes work around 1pm but comes home for lunch and then goes out to work on his CV or network until 11pm. Any request for help at home is refused as he is too tired/busy/needs to work. He actually refused to buy some bananas last week from outside his work because it would affect his image at work.
He also makes a lot of demands on my time and gets shirty when I don't immediately comply or seem any less than totally psyched to be doing whatever mundane task he wants me to perform. They are usually translations, answering emails, LinkedIn etc. DCs' needs are not an excuse.
The icing on the cake is that I am desperate to travel to my home country this summer as a family. Money is tight though and I had almost accepted the idea that it might not happen.
DH turned round last night to let me know that he has to do a summer course in my home country at a cost of £4k. This apparently is essential for him to get his dream job. The course's benefit is not obviously apparent to me and I think there is something else putting employers off.
The cost of this course would wipe out our savings, eliminate any chance of DCs seeing my family this year and mean me and DCs camping out at PILs this summer.
I am really really angry about this but DH will not listen to sense. HIBU, right?
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to be at the end of my tether with DH and his bloody 'career'
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pyrrhicvictories · 03/05/2015 11:55
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