So, dh has a lovely friend who I like a lot. He's very disorganised and wants to make everyone happy, and there's no way on earth that we're going to fall out with him over this because it would be daft.
But am I unreasonable to be a little pissed off by the following?
Dh and I had a very small wedding (literally us and the dcs and our parents). It was lovely. But we always planned to have a sort of reception later on. This year one of us has a significant birthday, and it seemed like a great idea to have a big party and finally celebrate both the birthday and our wedding with our nearest and dearest.
So we send out invites and straight away dh's friend (who I shall call Albert) gets back to us saying, "I'm so sorry! I meant to say sooner! That's the date we've picked for our wedding". Unfortunately he had told the friends he sees more regularly, so essentially a load of mutual friends were already booked.
On the one hand we didn't want to lose any of the people who were coming, on the other, this was one of dh's oldest friends and we wanted both to go to his wedding, and for them to come to our party.
So dh discussed it with Albert who was very apologetic. He clarified that yes we were all invited (dcs too) since we'd have no childcare that weekend and we said we'd see what we could do.
So we called all the people who had said they would come, and luckily they were all able to do our alternative date. And then we called all those who hadn't rsvp'd yet, and let them know the new date. And we sent out revised invitations. And it was a hassle, but it was worth it, and all was well.
Then Albert said he couldn't come to the new date either as they were going to go on holiday.
It was a shame, but not the end of the world. We still got to go to the wedding.
Now, Albert had booked out the hotel and had promised us two rooms for the dcs. But knowing Albert as we do, I asked dh to message him to just double check that was really happening.
We got a reply back saying "just one room, no space for non-family dcs".
Now I don't object to that in theory, but he'd bloody told us they were invited! Dh even double checked! We have it in writing and everything :o
We moved everything and now there's a good chance that we won't be able to make it anyway! Even if we get a babysitter my youngest will only be 5 months and BF.
The good thing is that other friends who are attending the wedding will now be coming to our party. So there are definite silver linings.
But am I being unreasonable to think that Albert is a bit of a wankbadger?
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To be just a little bit annoyed? I'm not being unreasonable, surely (wedding related)
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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 02/05/2015 10:08
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