My DH and I set up a business together 5 years ago, I basically did all the admin and bits that nobody else really wanted to do full time hours. I was paid whatever the minimum is for director and I owned 50% of the company (£640 a month i think) not a huge amount but I did it to help DH and we share all income anyway so it wasnt a huge issue.
At Christmas my DH went away with someone we worked with for a business meeting and when he came back for whatever reason he had decided to hand one third of the company to him. I could have said no but tbh I DH convinced me otherwise. So we then had a 1 third share of the company each.
A couple of months ago I found out I was pregnant and I have been really really sick not able to go in. I have done some work from home but fewer hours. Today I logged into my computer which DH shares and the messenger popped up on dhs account since he was logged in last and the last messages were from the business partner to dh moaning that I had still been getting money when I was off and still had share implying that because I was pregnant and off now and going to be off in the future I should not and should get no money. He called me on the way home last night to moan that we needed to spend less which was now I see obviously brought on by this.
We have taken a MASSIVE cut in income since christmas we used to have a good income now it is down to £1600 a month - without my 600 it would be less that £1000. Yet DH did not defend me saying anything like " well it is her company as well" or " she did spend the last 5 years helping to set this up maybe letting her stay off when she has been so sick she has made her throat bleed is just ok..."
This week I was supposed to have a consultants appointment but I had to cancel because we didnt have £5 to get there. Yet dh seems to think that we "take too much money". The business is making ok money I know that so I dont understand why this is such a MASSIVE issue and why I now have to take iron supplements because I couldnt afford to increase meat etc in my diet when I needed to...
I am so bloody close to just calling them up and blowing my top about it. I just dont know if I am being unreasonable to be taking it so badly. I feel like just telling them to take the company and fuck off but all that will do is take away what I have anyway.
I cant even go back now from being ill as the income has gone down so much we can no longer cover childcare - I am stuck and feel like I am being attacked from all directions
AIBU to go shit crazy!?
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thinkingofayear · 01/05/2015 12:35
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