To think that we were not being rude

(26 Posts)
Lesausage Thu 30-Apr-15 11:54:26

So I broke my leg and I'm in a cast. Instead of staying in going batshit crazy my sister offered me to go to soft play and have a coffee.

My sister and I went to a soft play centre when it first opened with her two kids (mine are at school).

At the soft play there are two massive sofas and the rest is all chairs and tables, I hobble in first on crutches and see that the sofa is taken up by one woman, her baby and her friend (no worries). The woman sees me and then looks away so I start heading towards a table since she didn't offer the other sofa etc.

My sister then comes in with her two dc and looks at the sofas (they are next to each other) and asks if the woman wouldn't mind if we used the other sofa so I can be comfortable and put my leg up. The woman was not impressed and I just called out "I'm cool, I'll just sit here dsis, honestly I'm fine".

Dsis asks the woman again and she says "ok, I guess but Im meeting friends", again I say don't worry dsis and dsis comes and sits with me.

Tbh I was ok, I had my leg propped on two chairs, I only started getting uncomfortable after 1 hr or so, so we left.

But the whole time we were there this woman and her friends were quite loudly proclaiming my sisters rudeness, how I shouldn't of come if I was not able to walk properly etc.

I felt like telling her to chill out, we didn't steal her sofas etc but I just watched my nieces play and ignored her greatly.

I don't think dsis wbu to at least ask about the other sofa, they are massive and we didn't know her friends were coming etc, we were brought up that if you see someone who needs something like a seat or the sofa per say it's polite to give it.

Were wbu?

Lesausage Thu 30-Apr-15 11:55:01

Oh and her friends didn't even turn up for another 30 mins.

Oldraver Thu 30-Apr-15 12:00:02

Oh I would of gone and sat on the sofa and got comfy

Lesausage Thu 30-Apr-15 12:06:03

The daggers put me off *old raver*, thing is I got more rest there than I did at home because all I can think about is stuff I need to do around the house etc

CupidStuntSurvivor Thu 30-Apr-15 12:08:15

Hmm. I'm on the fence I think. They definitely shouldn't have carried on loudly bitching, I agree there. But, having asked them if the sofa was free and them saying that they were actually expecting others, I don't really think you being in a leg cast means they should have moved to somewhere else so they could sit with their friends. Was there a big enough table for them and their friends to sit together somewhere else?

I'd have moved, for what it's worth.

FadedRed123 Thu 30-Apr-15 12:08:52

Sorry about the broken leg Lesausage, that must be a bloody nuisance for you.
Are you saying that the other women thought they had the right 'to reserve' an empty sofa for their fictitious friends? Outrageous bad manners!
I don't think I would have asked them, just sat down in said empty sofa and made myself comfortable. How rude!

VelvetRose Thu 30-Apr-15 12:09:19

Maybe she was in a bad mood or perhaps she felt uncomfortable sharing the space. Either way your sister did nothing wrong in asking. Strangely ott response really. Oh well!

Lesausage Thu 30-Apr-15 12:18:39

fadedred she was reserving the space for when he friends arrived which was 30 mins after we arrived.

There are loads of big tables where up to 12 can sit, in the end she only had two friends come anyways.

I'm glad we weren't being unreasonable.

NoImSpartacus Thu 30-Apr-15 12:34:34

In my 40 years on earth, OP, I've come to realise that some people are just cunts and therefore act accordingly. People who are passive aggressive are cowards that don't have the balls to front you and they simply lack class. Just be grateful you aren't like that, you sound calm and reasonable.

YWNBU

Breadrocks Thu 30-Apr-15 13:40:02

some people are just cunts

This.

CaspianSea Thu 30-Apr-15 13:47:52

If the sofa was empty you should have just sat down! But if they had bags on it and were clearly keeping for friends who were late, I think it was U to expect them to give it to you. They might have arrived specially early to get the sofas.

I know it's hard when you're in a cast, but I do think you need to plan ahead and not expect special treatment. Others may have their own agenda for wanting sofas, I know when my friend had recently given birth she could only sit on soft seats though it wasn't obvious to anyone she 'needed' to.

It sounds like you were able to elevate your leg ok at a table, so they probably didn't feel there was any real need to give up the sofa. If you know you're going somewhere with limited number of comfortable seats it might be best to phone ahead and ask if they can be reserved.

TSSDNCOP Thu 30-Apr-15 13:53:26

I would have had to say it was a shame only two friends turned up. Why is that Sofa Lady hmm <head tilt>

OnlyLovers Thu 30-Apr-15 13:58:15

I wouldn't have insisted on the sofa (and I know you didn't). She and her mates were rude and childish to go on about it. Didn't they have anything more interesting to talk about?

BarbarianMum Thu 30-Apr-15 14:09:03

I think "reserving" a piece of furniture for people who aren't actually in the building is U.

ConfusedInBath Thu 30-Apr-15 14:13:04

You can't save sofa's at soft play!
She should have said that you could sit there especially as you have broken leg.

Some people!

kissmethere Thu 30-Apr-15 14:19:17

You can't bags a sofa for people who aren't there! Wtf!
They wbu.

Hissy Thu 30-Apr-15 14:22:33

Bollocks to SAVING sofas - not when you have a sodding cast!

Oobis Thu 30-Apr-15 14:23:18

How sad that people who can't walk should stay at home!

I hope she didn't affect your change of scenery. Personally, I think life is a lot nicer when people show a little kindness and I think your need was greater than theirs. I hope these ladies learn that one day.

roslyndee Thu 30-Apr-15 15:38:02

um...YWNBU. They were bloody rude and any decent person would have offered you the sofa from the start!!

TheFairyCaravan Thu 30-Apr-15 15:50:59

No you weren't being rude. People have a bloody good knack of seeing someone else with a greater need but ignoring it.

I'm on crutches permanently. We arrived back from holiday in the early hours. It was a last minute thing to take my mind off the major surgery I'm having in 10 days. When I got on the coach at the hotel all of the 16 people, aged around 55+ (but very mobile) put their heads down am pretended I wasn't there as I hobbled up the aisle. hmm

When we got to the airport my front row, pre booked seats had been sold. I kicked off spoke to the senior rep who managed to sort it, but for the first 40 minutes of the flight I had to listen to the woman behind moaning I was in her seat! I think not, love, I booked it when I booked the holiday, it was a medical assistance seat and she had been allocated it 10 minutes before!

4 of us were in wheelchairs so were put to the front of the queue to board, a woman piped up "can I not get on, I was here first!" shock

I want to go back to a time when there were people with manners!

Sorry for the hijack. I hope your leg is soon better. flowers

roslyndee Thu 30-Apr-15 16:08:12

I get migraines that cause me to lose my vision and leave me unable to speak. I was on a coach many years ago once when it happened. I was asked to get off for being drunk!!!

People can be incredibly horrible and selfish.

SoupDragon Thu 30-Apr-15 16:09:57

I think asking twice was a little rude.

But not as rude as going on about it.

Bakeoffcake Thu 30-Apr-15 16:17:07

I bet she's one of those sorts who, on holiday gets out to the sun beds at 6 o'clock in the morning, to put her towel out.

Silly cow.

albertcamus Thu 30-Apr-15 18:56:51

YADNBU
Since I broke my leg in 3 places at the end of last December, I've been upset, hurt & disgusted by the attitudes (as described by others above) and c***ish selfishness of many (definitely not all) people, especially in cafés in situations such as yours.

The worst offenders are generally men of a certain age.

In contrast, families, mums with DC & young people are kind, helpful, not patronising & a joy to be around. It's been an eye-opener for me.

My experience of other countries, especially in the developing world, is that folk have much more humanity and common sense around the temporarily or permanently disabled.

Lesausage Thu 30-Apr-15 18:59:28

As I'm sitting here now with my leg throbbing I'm thinking iwnbu and she was a wanker sad

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