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AIBU?

To hate it when my DP goes 'out out'

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SillyPops · 24/04/2015 22:30

I don't even know why it bothers me so much. Maybe simply because I dont, and I don't see why he wants to.

DP said he was going out tonight with a friend (we don't live together), I had assumed he was going to the pub after work, just text me to saying he's going out now at 1030! That means he's going 'out out' and most likely clubbing and I'm really upset.

I trust him, Im not jealous because I don't enjoy it, but I'm still really annoyed/upset.

AIBU to think grown men shouldn't want to do this? Or am I a granny before my years? (DP is 27 btw)

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MellieGrant · 24/04/2015 22:32

YABVVU. You're the one who needs to grow up.

Meloria · 24/04/2015 22:34

He's only 27 FFS. The problem here is 100% you.

ChameleonCircuit · 24/04/2015 22:34

Are you Mickey Flanagan?!? Grin

notquiteruralbliss · 24/04/2015 22:34

I do the sort of going out that starts at maybe 10pm to midnight. Not clubbing, more after hours indi gigs. And I'm in my 50s, with 4 x DCs and a grown up job. So yes (in the nicest possible way) YABU. For what it's worth, my DH has no interest in coming with me, because it's not his sort of thing.

Lavenderice · 24/04/2015 22:34

YABVVVVVU. can you explain what upsets you about it?

SummerHouse · 24/04/2015 22:35

You are in the flush of youth from where I am standing. My dp is 'out, out' tonight. He is 38. Do you have kids? I get mildly annoyed because I can't sleep till he gets back then I have to get up with the kids in the morning. But I see this as my problem really.

YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 24/04/2015 22:35

Yes I think YABU. If he enjoys it then why not? What bothers you so much about it? DH is 30 and still goes 'out out' every now and then (although very rarely now we have a child)

KingJoffreyFanciesDarylDixon · 24/04/2015 22:37

Up to him what he does.

My DP still went clubbing until he was 30ish.

BathtimeFunkster · 24/04/2015 22:37

Confused

You think 27 is too old for having fun?

SummerHouse · 24/04/2015 22:37

Is it that you would rather be with him? I can understand that if you are in a quite new relationship.

littleflick · 24/04/2015 22:37

Off the unreasonable scale! "Grown men shouldn't want to do this" - what, why, what??! What should they want to do, just out of interest?

Casmama · 24/04/2015 22:37

I think you are kidding yourself. You need to figure out why you are upset as that is a bizarre reaction if you trust him- I suspect you don't really.

textfan · 24/04/2015 22:39

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CocktailQueen · 24/04/2015 22:39

Yabu! You don't even live together, and you don't want your p to go out?? Bonkers. He's 27, not 77.....

Only1scoop · 24/04/2015 22:39

Yabvu

Why on earth is it so terrible?

SillyPops · 24/04/2015 22:40

Oh, okay, I accept IABU Blush

I can't even pinpoint why I don't like it. Maybe because I hate drunk people (including him drunk) and I just don't 'get it'. To me clubbing is hell on earth. Sleazy men, slutty girls, terrible music, sweatiness...it's horrible. I suppose when I've been drinking I don't notice, as the sober one it's horrible.

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gruffaloshmuffalo · 24/04/2015 22:40

I'm going out out tomorrow. And I'm 28 and a mother of two. I cannot wait!

Stinkylinky · 24/04/2015 22:41

My DP is 35 and still goes out out. I'm 28 and if I wasn't pregnant, I would still be going out out every weekend!

YABVU

Only1scoop · 24/04/2015 22:43

So why are you so upset? Because he likes a different evening out now and then to what you might choose?

Tootsiepops · 24/04/2015 22:43

Slutty girls?

Do women still refer to one another in such derogatory terms?

Meloria · 24/04/2015 22:44

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BathtimeFunkster · 24/04/2015 22:45

To me clubbing is hell on earth. Sleazy men, slutty girls, terrible music, sweatiness...

Hmm

So, you don't trust him around these "sluts".

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littleflick · 24/04/2015 22:46

What a disgusting way to talk about people: sleazy and slutty.

I feel sorry for your Dp.

CatthiefKeith · 24/04/2015 22:47

I went out out for dh's 30th a few weeks ago. I stayed out out til 8am, and will be 42 this year. I disproportionately proud of this fact.

Op yabvu

Only1scoop · 24/04/2015 22:47

Blimey Op maybe he likes a break from seeing you ....

Think I'd have more laughs in my front room.

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