Sorry, I know that variations on this theme pop up on this all the time, but:
My cousin is getting married in the fall. We live about a 12 hour drive / 1.5 hour plane ride away from them. The wedding is on a tiny island, so guests will be staying the night in camping-style cabins and going home the next day.
I have a baby who will be 11 months old. I'm not comfortable leaving him behind to go to the wedding, so when my aunt asked whether I was coming, I said I'd like to come if I could, but wasn't sure how the bride and groom felt about babies at a wedding. She suggested, and I agreed to, childcare on the island, but that fell through, so she said that I could keep him with me, and just leave early if he gets antsy. Fine by me.
I talked to my dad this morning, and he told me that cousin's family had been adamant about not wanting children at the wedding. I've asked dad to clarify with my aunt and let her know that I'm totally fine if they want to have a kid-free wedding, I just won't be able to attend.
My question: I'm assuming that my aunt felt uncomfortable saying "no kids" when I asked. I did try to stress that it wasn't a problem to have a no kids policy, I just wouldn't be able to come. So, is there a way I could have worded my inquiry that would have made it easier for her to say no? Brides, have you felt uncomfortable fielding questions from family in similar circumstances?
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SusanOfStoHelit · 19/04/2015 06:04
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