AIBU - My stepsister

[irishamy89]

My dad and stepsisters mother are married.
I visited them abroad a couple of weeks ago and SS mother gave me medication to bring over to London that SS cannot get in the UK.
Despite her need for this medication my SS is mentally/physically fine with a full time city job.
The only problem is she is lazy to the bone!
I advised her that she could collect the meds from my flat (fairly close to her in London) or from DP work (pretty close to her work).
She is still yet to do either despite being in our exact area on Monday.
She is now texting me saying "I hope you realise the urgency and importance of me getting my meds off you before you go away for Easter".
She is also trying to give me "alternatives" basically asking me to go here there and everywhere to deliver the meds (despite the fact I have told her I am suffering from pregnancy sickness/headaches/fatigue etc.
I just find her lazyness so ridiculous and I am not going to pander to it particularly as she never so much as texts me from one month to the next.

[Writerwannabe83]

Cheeky cow!

I'd just tell her that if it's so urgent then she came and collect them!

[hellsbellsmelons]

Of course YANBU
Simple text to her.
NO.... these are the options blah blah, take it or leave it but let me know if you are collecting them or not?
Done!

[Ilovenannyplum]

Haaaa. She sounds delightful
Clearly it's not that urgent or she would have collected them by now.
YANBU.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

" well come and get then then" is an obvious answer

[RiverRocks]

YANBU

Dear stepsister, we go away Saturday but are in tomorrow and Friday nights. Irishamy.

Ps, congratulations on your pregnancy. Sorry you're having a rubbish time of it at the moment. All the more reason not to pander to her! Unless she's housebound and you agreed to take them to her, I'd say her illness, her responsibility - you've done her a favour bringing the meds back in the first place!

[TwoOddSocks]

YANBU, if she's that desperate she'll pop over to your DH in her lunch break. You're doing her a favour getting her the meds on the first place. Don't you dare give in to her the lazy cow!

[irishamy89]

I have reiterated the two options to her but she isn't getting the message and still trying to give me alternatives!
I have even given her dp number as he said he would be happy to liaise with her regarding collecting it from his work.
He has still not received a text from her and I'm sure it's because she knows she couldn't give him alternatives (as he works such long hours) and therefore I am her only shot at making things easier for her.

Riverrocks - I would certainly hand deliver it to her if she actually physically could not collect it (I have done this for my other stepsister when she had an issue with her eye and couldn't see properly or work).
Thanks for the congrats! I'm not having an overly rubbish time, I just have no energy to be running around London after her.
She is quite a bit older than me and has no responsibilities beyond work.
I'm not sure she understands what it is like to be run down and still be dedicated to looking after the house, cooking for my very hard working DP, pregnancy and trying to buy a new house (All fairly standard responsibilities but foreign to her!).

[ChipDip]

Yanbu, don't feel guilty she sounds like a lazy lump. If she needs it that badly, she'll come get it. I would also let your dad know that she hasn't collected yet despite you asking her a few times to do so.

[thewomaninwhite]

What a lazy madam. YADNBU.

[irishamy89]

Chipdip - I let him know this morning, he said to stick with my two options and that if she doesn't come to my flat or collect it from dp tomorrow at work then it's her own fault.
He is also going to let her mum know who is absolutely lovely (how embarrassing for her as a woman in her early thirties to have caused all this fuss!).
We are away for Easter from Friday morning so if she doesn't get in to gear tomorrow then it will be too late!

[ChipDip]

Ah well your dad agrees with you so don't worry about it.

[StayingSamVimesGirl]

"Dear Stepsister,

I will not be delivering your medication to you. Your two options are to collect them from my flat or from my dh's work.

Love
irishamy."

[Queenmarigold]

why don't you just post them? Job done

[shewept]

Ok I am assuming the medication is legal here. Why doesn't you're step mum just post it to her, if it was so important?

Stick to your guns OP. No way would I be putting myself out for her. Tell her options then don't reply to anymore of her suggestions.

[KittensOnAPlane]

just out of interest, what is the "medication to bring over to London that SS cannot get in the UK."

If she cant get it here, then is it that urgent?

[TheListingAttic]

Are you even allowed to bring medication that isn't approved in UK over here?

I agree that "well come and get them then!" is the best possible answer. (If she keeps being mardy, start demanding a mule fee.)

[irishamy89]

Hi ladies.
When I say you can't get it over here I'm not entirely sure.
SS mother just said to bring it over for her so I kind of assumed so.
Looking at the name of the medication it is familiar to me so maybe I just missed the point of why SS mother needed it sent over!
SS mother has text me apologising for SS and says she will post the meds next time!

[Ratfinkandbobo]

Yanbu fell her if you want them, come and get them, cheeky madame!

[Ratfinkandbobo]

Not fell, tell, autocorrect!

[anothernumberone]

YANBU at all, it maybe that the medication is cheaper where mil lives. Stick to your guns.

[UptheChimney]

YANBU, except for saying this:

She is quite a bit older than me and has no responsibilities beyond work. I'm not sure she understands what it is like to be run down and still be dedicated to looking after the house, cooking for my very hard working DP, pregnancy and trying to buy a new house (All fairly standard responsibilities but foreign to her!)

You seem to think that your life choices are more important than hers. She still has a house to run, meals to cook, and so on. You're not special.

Yes, she should come to pick up the medications, but she should do that because you've brought them over for her, not because your life is so much more responsible and important than hers.

[Jackieharris]

Are the meds a controlled substance? Did you check if it was ok to import them into the UK?

I'd be careful you could have got into a lot of legal bother.

[shewept]

I wouldn't bring anything into the country that I didn't know exactly what it was or if its even legal to bring in.

Glad your her mum agrees she is being a pain and you won't be asked again.

What did you say when they asked 'are you carrying anything for anyone else?' at the airport. Just to be clear I am asking out of total nosiness.

[straighttothepoint]

Stick to your guns and let her sort herself out. I can't believe she has to rely on a medicine from outside the UK to survive - our nhs is crap but hopefully not that shit.