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To be so mad with my husband snoring that I can't sleep!

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Wharm14 · 30/03/2015 23:32

My husband is currently sound asleep next to me after only been in bed for fifteen mins and is snoring like a locomotive. I've asked him to go to the doctors but he keeps putting it off. Any advice before I kick him! Confused

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MangoJuggler · 30/03/2015 23:37

Actually I would record him, play back to him.

Tonight, have you a spare bed, earplugs? Or the couch/pile of blankets. For him, natch.

He does realise that severe snoring can be an indicator of various health problems, some really nasty if left untreated? Particularly if he stops breathing. Sleep apnea, not nice.

CalicoBlue · 30/03/2015 23:43

I recorded my DH snoring, I went out of the bedroom and recorded him from the landing. He thought I was being mean when I played it back to him.

I can usually sleep through anything so if he is snoring I tell him and he will sometimes go downstairs till I am asleep. When he is stressed at work it is worse. Most of the time I do not notice it.

Not much advice other than kick him.

Wharm14 · 30/03/2015 23:44

I've tried recording him in the past and he listens but just laughs it off. No spare bed unfortunately but the couch and blankets is tempting right now! I think I'll just book him an appointment and drag him to doctors, it's especially bad tonight, some nights I fall asleep before him and it doesn't bother me. Thank god for mumsnet to amuse me for now!Smile

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TheCatsFlaps · 30/03/2015 23:44

Yep, as *Mango points out, could be a warning sign for something serious. I find that a drop of candlewax on the back has the dedired effect.

TamzinGrey · 30/03/2015 23:48

Years ago I read somewhere that you can stop someone snoring immediately by making that sort of "click click" noise through the corners of your mouth that people do to call horses. I scoffed at this at the time but then along came snory old DH and one night I tried it in desperation. It worked like magic and has since saved me many a sleepless night.

WestEast · 30/03/2015 23:58

Holland and Barrett. Snor-ring. It kept me from finishing with DP when we first got together.

Rainbunny · 31/03/2015 00:04

Long time sufferer here. Earplugs worn religiously and a noise machine next to me on the bedside table has made a huge difference for me.

Rainbunny · 31/03/2015 00:05

West - I just looked up the H&B snor-ring. Does that seriously work? How well? I'll try anything!

thenightsky · 31/03/2015 00:08

rain what is this magic noise machine of which you speak?

VanitasVanitatum · 31/03/2015 00:08

Snoring spray from boots (as well as doctors obviously) it's miraculous!

Gileswithachainsaw · 31/03/2015 00:16

I feel your pain. dp sleeps on the sofa alot these days cos he's so fuckin loud I'm. surprised neighbours don't complain.

I tried ear plugs they didn't work as I couldn't fit them in due to my ear piercing.

I still hear him. When he's sleeping downstairs but least it's not in my ear

OneMillionScovilles · 31/03/2015 00:40

Try pinching his nose shut for a bit. My DH made the mistake genius move of mentioning this 'cure' a few years ago - always feels super mean but (a) it shuts him up for a few mins and (b) I know for a fact he does it to me when I'm "purring"

OneMillionScovilles · 31/03/2015 00:41

Also often encourages him to roll onto his side (away from Evil Pinchy Wife) Wink

Rainbunny · 31/03/2015 00:51

Nightsky - It's a white noise machine -sounds like a continuous "SSHHHH" sound, two volumes to choose from. Here's the one I use: www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HD0ELFA/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

It won't drown out the snoring completely but it really helps me not be disturbed by the snores, just creates a background noise. I still wear earplugs using it as well.

lertgush · 31/03/2015 01:37

Every time he snores, send him to sleep on the sofa.

Eventually he'll get sick enough of it that he voluntarily goes to the doctor.

UnderEstherMate · 31/03/2015 01:43

Urgh I'm with you (hence why I'm on MN at 1.45am!)

I've shoved nudged him so many times that he'll fall of the bed if I shove nudge him again.

And he wonders why I'm cranky in the mornings Hmm

lertgush · 31/03/2015 02:07

I gave up nudging and shoving. I just switch the light on and shout 'EITHER SHUT THE FUCK UP OR SLEEP SOMEWHERE ELSE.'

AcrossthePond55 · 31/03/2015 02:22

I googled everything I could find on 'bad health effects of snoring' and told DH about them in a very concerned, wide-eyed, panicked voice. "You might DIE! You might STOP BREATHING! You might HAVE A STROKE!" etc. Funny, once he thought he was 'in danger' he went to the doctor Hmm. I guess he never cared how close he was to being smothered with a fecking pillow because I couldn't sleep!

He had a moderate case of sleep apnoea, now uses a CPap machine and our nights are blissfully silent!

Rainbunny · 31/03/2015 03:07

AcrossthePond - is the CPap machine quiet? I would definitely encourage my dh to use one in that case.

AcrossthePond55 · 31/03/2015 05:00

I think they are. DH has two, one in our house & an older one in the caravan. The older has a continuous sound, sort of a quiet hiss as the air is fed to him. It doesn't bother me, it's like a white noise. The newer one only makes a sound when he inhales, again it's a quiet hiss. The older one never bothered me, the newer (the one that makes the sound only when he inhales) took me a night or two to get used to. But both of them are pretty quiet and so much better than the snoring. I swear he shook the walls with his snoring.

nooka · 31/03/2015 05:11

I recently bought BOSE noise cancelling earbud headphones and play white noise on them (waves and tropical rain together at the moment). The combined effect allowed me to get some sleep on our recent holiday. Very expensive though!

dh's snoring seems to have got much worse since he stopped smoking, which is obviously very annoying.

mathanxiety · 31/03/2015 05:37

Bicycle horn. The kind that comes with a warning not to let small children use it. When he wakes you, wake him.

I don't know why some people find it fun to keep someone from sleep, or think it's funny to deprive someone you share a bed with of the rest they need. Maybe a taste of his own medicine would help you to get the point across that this is not a joke.

Or get yourself some earplugs and use them until he goes to a doctor.

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UnderEstherMate · 31/03/2015 09:56

I like that one AcrossThePond Grin

Wharm14 · 31/03/2015 15:28

Thank you for all your replies ladies, it's comforting to know that somewhere out there, other women are sharing my pain! Smile

I did get to sleep last night shortly after posting my last post, I woke him up and sent him to the bathroom to blow his nose (which sometimes helps) and then must of fallen asleep before him. I have booked a doctors appointment for a couple of weeks time (earliest I could get) so let's hope the doctor can give us something for it.

I love all of the suggestions, lertgush, yours made me laugh out loud!

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Shonajay · 02/04/2015 12:32

In the meantime, invest in the best earplugs ever, mufflers from boots. They're pure wax, and you will sleep through anything. I can't wear them if hubby away in case something happens- last week dh burnt his toast, two smoke alarms went off and I slept through it. So if you have young kids, probably not a good idea.

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