A friend I recently cut off from (stepped back for a much needed friendship break) was pretty close to me and we used to talk about a lot of personal stuff. But she's really into psychology and think she sees herself as an amateur psychologist (even seems to think she's a pro sometimes) and is always diagnosing friends with various disorders, in our chats together.
E.g. she claimed one friend has ADHD (I've never seen any ADHD symptoms at all in him!). Another time she implied that I might have had Multiple Sclerosis (!!) (I had gone through some stress several years before that manifested very physically, but I got through it fine and not had problems since).
Several other times I feel she has tried to imply I have Asperger syndrome; she's always calling loads of people "a bit aspie" and often says about how "everyone exhibits traits" but in a really markedly way as if she knows loads about it and that I am exhibiting these "traits". I do have some mental health issues of my own that have led me to cut back from the world in recent years (and have been unable to disclose with her) so I can see why she might think my behaviour odd at times, but I'm confident I don't have AS. It's not just me in this sense, it's a lot of our friends are "a bit aspie" as she puts it.
Another time I got into feng shui, as well as interior design, and decluttering, and she'd go on about how it was a "control" issue that I did these things and wanted a nice house because of the control aspect etc..I just wanted to have a nice environment.
Also I get the impression that she mocks me a lot to other friends, diagnosing me in chats to them, also them to me. I had a baby a couple of years ago and as a working single parent have struggled to find time to do everything, be super slim (I'm not fat but could do with losing a bit post baby) etc; also judging me on my alcohol intake (I have a beer or two about three days a week - used to drink a lot before DS but not any more) and my food etc. I could eat a bit better but who couldn't! I'm making positive changes in my life but it's slow progress as a single parent with no time.
I just feel constantly judged on everything I do by her - be it food, my baby, my mental health, trying to do good things like sort my house out, etc and grew tired of it. Maybe I am being hypersensitive... possibly I am. I feel a bit better now I have had a break so am not sure I can rekindle the relationship...
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missabc123 · 27/03/2015 23:42
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