Uni student that I know of was sexually assaulted by a fellow student - he took advantage of her while drunk, kissed and touched her, stopped eventually when she said no "enough" times. She was 20ish, he was 27ish. When she reported this to the uni and gave them a statement, she was told off for referring to him as a "sex offender" (not in the statement; in person, while upset). Victim assumed that she was just wrong and that maybe the phrase only refers to paedophiles or something. Incident was some months ago so not in need of advice on the rest at this point, but she has just told me this detail, outraged as it had just clicked that they told a victim off for her choice of language. They stopped her mid-sentence and said she would want to be careful about wording. AIBU to be horrified at how pedantic they were? I can understand from the victim's position running around town calling him names would be inadvisable, slanderous (if not convicted), possibly even dangerous, but in a pastoral environment was it really necessary for them to frown upon her for using legally appropriate terms to describe her perpetrator. It just raises questions about their general manner towards students (many very vulnerable) who come to them for help/advice. WDYT?
TLDR: Is it ever OK to tell a victim off for using the phrase "sex offender" when talking to a support team about the incident?
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bstbaby · 26/03/2015 23:29
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