I've name changed (because this is completely identifiable to anyone that knows me! But I've been on here for years)
My father and I are nc, he hasn't met my children and I hope he never will. He was an abusive husband and has held a grudge against my mum finally leaving him for over 20 years. He's tried his best to make our lives miserable, sending my mum awful messages constantly, trying to take me to court for access to my children (he didn't get permission) and generally being a nasty person.
He contacted my mum to tell her he's written a book. And it's (self) published, and she might 'recognise' a few of the characters.
I read it last night (and shouldn't have) and it's horrendous. It's about my mum mostly, horrible things that happen to her and her admitting she's a terrible person, it's filled with lies about their past - things that she didn't do or didn't happen... And I'm in it a bit as
someone who gets my 'comeuppance' by my children being taken away and my husband leaving. He writes things in there like I'm an alcoholic and my children are ashamed of me. (Which is entirely not true, not only am I not an alcoholic, they are 1 and 4... Not sure they can feel ashamed at that age regardless!!)
It's a horrible, upsetting read. Usually we just rise above the stuff he does and he leaves us alone for a few months, but he's sunk really low this time. My mums dad died a couple of months ago and it's been obviously really hard for us all. He chose to send this to my mum on his birthday... And included a scene about someone being cremated - graphically.
It's too much. It's making my mum ill. I called the police about him once before when he was sending me threatening messages and voicemails and they visited him and warned him off... But is there actually anything that can be done about this?
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namechangebookworry · 27/02/2015 10:37
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