I feel so stressed out at the moment and I don't know what to do or where to start to make it better. I live in a small 2 bed semi which I don't want to be in as it's so small I feel claustrophobic in an area I don't really want to be in even though I was born here. Area wise I find boring and nothing to do. I have 3 boys aged 4,3 and 2months.
My husband is very untidy and this stresses me out also. Always leaving clothes all around the house, think I have found socks in every room. Wet towels left on the bed or bedroom floor. Doors to cupboards left open, things left out of fridge to go bad like milk etc. He leaves his drawers open with clothes hanging out so I have to close them every time I go into bedroom otherwise I can't get past. He will put trousers in wash basket with belt left on or with one trouser leg inside out so when washed I have to put my arm up a wet trouser leg to hang to dry. Writing this down sounds really petty but it's really getting to me.
I wouldn't class my husband as lazy, he works 2 jobs but it's just his untidy ways and also I feel I never get a break away from the children as sometimes in the evening he will pop to the shops to get some food and if I ask him to take the baby with him he moans saying it's a gaff getting him in and out the baby seat but then I'm left at home trying to put the other two to bed and if the baby starts crying I feel I can't settle the other 2 down properly. I can just feel so much stress and tension in me at the moment.
It's not the children that are the problem but I feel the house is one disorganised mess and I can't get on top of anything due to mess my husband leaves and demands of breastfeeding and I feel like I'm always sitting in a mess. I'm actually ashamed of my house so don't invite friends round, it doesn't feel like a home and as soon as I come into the house I can feel the stress in me.
I actually enjoy tidying up and feel calm when the house looks nice but as soon as my husband gets home he takes off his shoes, coat jumper and shirt and just dumps them randomly and I'm starting to resent it now and feel so disheartened that I have wasted my time. Any tips or advice on what I can do or how to have a tidier home as feel absolutely drained with it all.
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2boysandcounting1 · 01/02/2015 17:12
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