DH and I both live and work outside the UK. We met in this country, both having been sent here separately for work. Our careers have gone from strength to strength and I have had a very significant promotion to a role that is a key one in a small team.
DH's job has evolved as well and now, after 5 years abroad, his company say that his current role is best done from London. He loves the role and it has immensely good prospects. If he doesn't transfer to London they'll give the job to someone already there and he will be made redundant. However there would not be a position for me with my organisation in London.
My job pays extremely well (as does DH's) and can be very interesting. I often find it hugely stressful but not to the extent that I would have looked for a new job here if we had been staying in this country. However the view I take is that one of us will have to make a sacrifice and I am quite OK for it to be and not him. I am sure I can find something to do in the future and I have plenty of savings to give me the luxury of time to look. We are also ttc.
However I am dreading telling my employers. It's rare for women to be in the position I am in and we have been doing lots of business planning for the upcoming 24 months in which my role is fundamental, plus we have 4 juniors who look to me as a mentor. It's not the sort of position you just fill when someone leaves because it's a partnership and our business is about personal relationships with clients, though in time they will work out some sort of succession plan once the shock has subsided. However initially the other Partner in the team will have to take on all my work and there is a strong chance that he will lose a number of clients that we service jointly. He spent a long time building the practice and I feel bad that I might damage it. He's a very stress-prone person.
My employers are not used to their Partners having life partners with more or equally lucrative careers of their own. They have invested a lot of time and energy developing me and it's uncommon for Partners to leave unless they have real problems or get poached by a competitor; long term commitment to business development is implicit in the job description. I think that they will be very disappointed that I don't value my career/our business enough to tell my DH he should limit his own career options to ones which fit in with mine.
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Giving up my job so DH can pursue his dream job - AIBU to care what my employers think?
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HarryConnickSenior · 31/01/2015 09:14
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