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AIBU?

To think naked pics of your kids on social media is a no-no?

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Bellerina2 · 29/01/2015 16:42

One of my oldest friends has a lovely little girl aged just over 3. She's always posting cute photos of her on Facebook but this past week she's posted two of her daughter naked that are from her Instagram account. Is it just me who thinks that perhaps that's not a great idea? Especially when her Instagram account isn't private.

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wheresthelight · 29/01/2015 16:49

it really isn't any of your business and you have no idea what her privacy settings are

WiiUnfit · 29/01/2015 16:55

No, its not a good idea at all but unfortunately, some people will do silly things.

Bellerina2 · 29/01/2015 16:55

Her Instagram settings are not private. I'm not coming from an "OMG paedos" POV, I just think that if you put naked photos of your kids up then they may not appreciate it in the future!

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weeblueberry · 29/01/2015 16:56

Is it just her upper half or her whole body?

Bellerina2 · 29/01/2015 16:57

Topless is no big deal but this is her whole body, front and rear, weeblueberry.

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TeWiSavesTheDay · 29/01/2015 16:58

It's a stupid thing to do. I have seen someone bullied with pictures from years ago and it's so naive to think it won't happen to your child.

betweenmarchandmay · 29/01/2015 16:59

It's horrible; YANBU.

TerraNovice · 29/01/2015 17:13

It's a silly thing to do - even if no one sees them publicly they'll still belong to Instagram or Facebook and why would you want that?

SeaUnicorns · 29/01/2015 17:14

Sorry whereisthelight, the op clearly does know what here friends privacy settings are, Instagram isn't like facebook where you can set which friends and how private things are. It's either private or an open profile and you can see which it is very very easily. Oh was that rude, just like your reply to the op!


Sorry op to answer your question, er isn't that just common sence from both points of view, I'm not sure it's wise to post nude pictures of anyone to open or even private social media. It does rather attract people who could use it to bully or at least embarrass let alone paedophilila.


Can you report it for Inappriote content if they take down pics of Amanda byram topless on a fitness mag surely they would deem what your friend posted inappriote too.

Cariad007 · 29/01/2015 18:57

Hmm, I put lots of photos of DS on facebook as I've got family and friends all over the world who like to see them but I draw the line at naked photos. And my Facebook is set to private, doing it on a public Instagram is crazy! I don't think it's fair on DS as its a bit too personal and like a PP said, I wouldn't want them to end up in the hands of bullies in the future.

HandMini · 29/01/2015 19:04

YANBU. It's a silly thing to do from the point of view of your child later being ridiculed and altho unlikely to be viewed sexually I just wouldn't want to take the chance.

NormHonal · 29/01/2015 19:06

YANBU.

Password or no password, if they're out there, they are out there, forever.

GooodMythicalMorning · 29/01/2015 19:10

Naked pictures of children on social sites are a big no no for me. Once posted they are out there forever.

PurpleSwift · 29/01/2015 19:10

Yanbu. I'm Not in the "what about peados" camp either but it's about respecting your child's privacy

wheresthelight · 29/01/2015 19:12

it is still none of the op's business!

and unless she is the one posting the picture she is only guessing at her friends settings

Blueundies · 29/01/2015 19:16

It's not a good idea at all for many reasons. I would personally mention it and ask if she thought about it. Some people just don't think about it

Bellerina2 · 29/01/2015 19:17

I'm not guessing at her settings, I've said twice that her Instagram account is not private. I know this because I am not on Instagram, yet if I click the photo I'm taken to her Instagram account where I can see all her photos. I don't have to log in or anything like that. I have other friends on Instagram who have private accounts and if I click on a photo they post then I get a prompt to log in. Is that clear enough for you wheresthelight or would you prefer it in some sort of interpretive dance to help you comprehend?

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WineSpider · 29/01/2015 19:23

wheresthelight it is the OP's business by virtue of the fact that her friends has willingly posted something public that she knows will come up on people's newsfeeds.

I don't post any photos of my child on social networks and I think that publicly shared naked pictures are a real invasion of a child's privacy. That child is a person.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 29/01/2015 22:55

Huge no no for me. It's about the child's modesty mainly. They won't always be that young.

MsAnndrist · 29/01/2015 23:49

Nope YADNBU, it's disrespectful to your child.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 30/01/2015 00:14

Well although I am and have every intention of staying a facebook and instagram virgin, so some would argue I dont know anything about them, and that's right I don't, but I do know one thing there's no way I'd post a naked picture of my child on there so Y definitely NBU.

Patsyandeddie · 30/01/2015 00:35

Jesus Christ the world has gone mad!!! WTF- a child naked, see it for what it is -.innocent!! X

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Charlesroi · 30/01/2015 00:36

You're right, it's an absolute no-no. Do your friend (and, more importantly, her child) a favour and explain why she's wrong to do this.

Redglitter · 30/01/2015 00:56

I post loads of photos of my nieces (with their parents permission) the one stipulation they made was no naked pics when the girls were little no bath ones etc which I thought was more than fair. especially now the girls are of an age to be on fb themselves

Babycham1979 · 30/01/2015 01:07

I'm sorry, but this really is hysteria (in the purest sense of the word). 'Someone might use it against them in the future'. Eh? There could be a photo I f a naked two year old Barak Obama smeared across the media and no one would give a shit. Prurience is purely in the eye of the beholder. If you think 'sex' when you see a naked child, the issue is yours; no one else's.

You might be weirdly protective of your tiny child's modesty, and that's your own business, but don't try to dignify it with intellectual argument; your feelings are visceral, and probably not entirely nice. So be it. That's your right as a parent.

It might be uncomfortable, but it's true. Deal with it.

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