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AIBU?

AIBU to be annoyed by all this boring nonsense?

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FlowerPuff · 29/01/2015 14:27

I’m 29 and this post concerns my oldest ‘friend’. We were always very close, met at school. Both live in London. She got married in December and asked me to be bridesmaid. I was seeing someone and he was obviously my plus one. We split up 2 weeks before the wedding and my friend was quite supportive to be fair and came to see me etc, cooked and stuff like that. What annoyed me at the time (although I didn’t say anything) was that a few days before the wedding I asked if I could take a date and she refused on the basis that she had already given her table plans to the venue but I could bring a friend or my mum if I wanted to? Hmm What difference would a date have made?

On the wedding day she was very nice but it seemed to me that she tried deliberately not to be all ‘me me me’ and gave out presents to us, let her husband talk about how amazing she was etc and it was all a bit showy and reverse showing off about how amazing her life is. Don’t get me wrong, they are very happy together and he is lovely but there was no thought to my recent break up. She even asked me on the night “if I was ok?” Hmm. Kind of got on my nerves to hear how amazing she is from everyone all night. Every single conversation with her friends was all about how she is the best thing since sliced bread. Surely there is more to life than this?

Since the wedding we have been out and she didn’t drink (she’s not pregnant). I love her but I just feel she has completely changed as a person. AIBU to say something?

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Sn00p4d · 29/01/2015 14:34

It got on your nerves to hear that a bride is amazing on her wedding day?
I'm not sure I understand the issue. It reads as though you're jealous. She asked you if you were ok, on her wedding day, she seems lovely.

Pumpkinette · 29/01/2015 14:36

Interesting topic to choose for your first post...

lollilou · 29/01/2015 14:37

Oh come on this can't be real.

TeWiSavesTheDay · 29/01/2015 14:37

So... Reverse?

Seeline · 29/01/2015 14:37

You're moaning because your best friend was the star of the show on her wedding day?
It sounds as though she was very supportive of you, giving presents, checking you were OK etc. What did you expect her to do? It was her big day. No doubt there were loads of other people there who she had to speak to - your wedding day is not really your day, you have to speak to hundreds of people you haven't seen for years, some of whom you've never met.
She didn't drink on a night out? Did you ask why? Not feeling well, on medication, big meeting the next day - or yes she could be pg but not want to share the news yet. Not drinking on a night out is hardly reason to start thinking personality change.

Nabootique · 29/01/2015 14:37

I agree that it is a bit strange that you could bring a friend or your mum, but not a date, but the rest of it sounds like YABU to be honest.

Goneintohibernation · 29/01/2015 14:37

Am I reading this right? On her wedding day she gave you a present, asked if you were OK after your breakup, and tried not to be all "me me me!" and that is bad? She sounds like a lovely friend. I don't understand the problem?

stillwearingaredribbon · 29/01/2015 14:38

I'm not understanding either
Did you think she should not have an amazing day because of your recent split?
The day was about her and her dh marriage and future

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 29/01/2015 14:38

Reverse by any chance? No one would be this ridiculous, surely.

EatShitDerek · 29/01/2015 14:38

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notonyourninny · 29/01/2015 14:38

Really? It was her wedding day. Sounds like she can't do right for doing wrong? You don't sound like a nice friend,

NorwaySpruce · 29/01/2015 14:39

Please, please say this isn't another fucking reverse thread.

I really want to believe there are people as dim as the OP out there, just for genuine entertainment value, but I just can't.

SlurpingCustard · 29/01/2015 14:39

You're right, that was boring Hmm

bubalou · 29/01/2015 14:39

Reverse thread?

I smell something off - surely nobody is this selfish and self involved to really think this?

Chippednailvarnish · 29/01/2015 14:40

Not another goady, first time poster, surely not?

How unusual.

BloodyUserName · 29/01/2015 14:40

I assume she knows your mum and sister and maybe didn't want a total stranger there on her day.

Becca83 · 29/01/2015 14:40

Reverse, surely?

notonyourninny · 29/01/2015 14:40

Perhaps she should of cancelled the wedding, to you know, spare your feelings.Hmm

lollilou · 29/01/2015 14:41

I can't seem to reverse this in my head and for it to make any sense either.

GraysAnalogy · 29/01/2015 14:41

Oh sod off.

CrapBag · 29/01/2015 14:42

Definitely reverse.

Why would a bride give thought to your recent break up on her wedding day? Why wouldn't the groom give a speech about how amazing he thinks his bride is?

Crap OP.

Number3cometome · 29/01/2015 14:45

What is a 'reverse'?

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Ahchoo · 29/01/2015 14:46

I think she got your back up by saying that you couldn't bring a date and because you felt hurt by her and hurt by your break up you are taking offense in things that really aren't offensive. I totally get that she hurt you by being awkward about your plus one but honestly, people have been gushing about the bride at every wedding I've ever been to! It's normal.

sliceofsoup · 29/01/2015 14:46

YABU and a shit friend.

If she had to ask you were you ok on the day of her wedding then you must have been sitting with a right face on.

My DH said how wonderful I was in his speech, but we don't normally verbalise it. I mean we say I love you, but thats about it.

If you can't do it on your wedding day then when the fuck can you? Hmm

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 29/01/2015 14:46

What would you say?

I am cross that you didn't want someone I'd known for a fortnight coming to your wedding but were happy for me to bring a family member, plus I think your wedding day was too much about you.

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