Fuck me, I need to vent about this, so apologies, in advance, for the rant, RIGHT (& there's a huge back-story here as to why I'm a pissed-off person).
My husband (Gawd love him & I fucking do) is a humongous twat, it's a long tale, a whole other thread, BUT, rest assured, he's engineered a situation that leaves us in a very fucking precarious position, the fact is, we're here.
Sooo, one of my BFF's Dad died just after Christmas, he'd been ill for a long time but it was still horrid, as all deaths are, she was there as he went, I've been there to help & support & she had a ridiculous quote for the catering for the funeral, I do some catering, not much, it's just for friends, so I offered to do the catering for a much reduced price at her Dad's funeral which she was very happy to accept.
And then? Dh's Uncle dies, very suddenly last week. He was not close to his family, his father buggered off when he was four, he met his cousin for the first time over Christmas (when I was entertaining his five half siblings & partners & children PLUS their Mum - his Dad's second wife - for a week, they're not British so came over to visit), anyhow, they weren't close.
The crux of this very complex matter IS, (if you've seen my posts in The Doghouse) we have a new puppy, when I knew I was having to do the catering for my friend's funeral I was phoning up about day-care for the pup, I can't cater & cook with him there, as with all Pups, he's very demanding, My Husband stopped me & said he would do it and I SAID 'WILL YOU NOT BE GOING TO YOUR UNCLE'S FUNERAL??? & He said no.
And last night, the night before I have to do my catering & his Uncle's funeral? He's going, no child care, no dog care, he's fucking going. At 7am tomorrow. And I have no fucking recourse. I have to suck that shit up & get on. Because that's HIS FUCKING FAMILY.
Brilliant.
AIBU?
You massive Shit Head
HoundoftheBaskervilles · 28/01/2015 00:35
Oh OP! How stressful.
If you lived near to me, and it was my day off, I'd happily have your kids over, I'd be happier still to borrow your puppy, and I'd even ring your DH's neck for you into the bargain.
You'll get through it somehow. You sound like a brilliant friend, although I know none of that helps. 
Thanks Misfitless, I'd cheer you on for all of that.
I don't have any though.
We own a brewery.
That's a whole other story of idiocy.
So he's said nothing? Have you asked him WTF you're supposed to do? He can't just say 'nothing'!
Oh OP, I'm from the Hereford/welsh border too but unfortunately I've moved away so can't help. And ironically I've got a funeral to attend as well. 
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