Just that really.
Just been told by my parents not to expect to go and see sister's new baby, "they will tell you when they're ready". (Baby is not born yet, but is due any week now.)
I realise, naturally, that it is up to the new parents, not up to me (I do have two children of my own, after all!) So please don't tell me IABU for trying to make this about me. I know it's not about me.
I would never want to intrude.
I am just a bit that this has come up at the last moment (in my culture it is very normal for close family to go and see the new baby as soon as it's born) and the attitude is also pretty disrespectful towards me and my family. It's a 6-hour round trip and we have two toddlers, so it's not that convenient for us to arrive "on command" IYSWIM, it would be nicer to sort out a mutually convenient time.
Baby has no other aunts and only 1 other uncle apart from DH so it's not like they are going to be swamped with visitors.
I didn't say anything but I really resented the lecture on how birth is unpredictable and you don't know how you're going to feel afterwards etc etc. Funnily enough I have done it not that long ago so I do remember! I really think my parents were getting a kick out of telling me that I had to wait to be summoned. Especially since it came as second-hand message from them and not directly from the parents-to-be. I've very surprised as they don't have form for this sort of thing.
I can't help thinking of other times in my life when "friends" have pointedly asked me to not to come to parties etc. Does this happen to everyone? Or am I really such an awful person? Or is it just a bit of bad luck? Or how on earth should I take this?
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to think that some people get a real kick out of excluding others?
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NameChangerOrdinaire · 26/01/2015 15:56
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