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To think that actually 30 isnt the new 20?

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JenPoll01 · 24/01/2015 22:49

Conversation with group of mates this evening at friends' house...

"30 is the new 20, we dont need to worry yet."

We (group of about 10 of us) live in London. Husband and i got married 6 months ago and will shortly move to Bucks where we are buying our first house and will have first baby hopefully soon after. I am 28 and we are all aged between 28-34. We are the only ones to have ever saved. Despite the lowest salary of the group being £45k (we have never previously talked about £ but convo became rather in depth after i said that i was very surprised that noone had any savings whatsoever) and highest being £70k a year.

Apparently we are in the minority? Surely not? They all spend every penny they have on goong out, lavish hols and clothes and have hige credit card debts. We of course go out with them but not to everything (they all go out at least twice mid week too). We love them dearly but i have come away tonight wondering if i am alone in thinking they will regret this complacency eventually?!

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AnyFucker · 24/01/2015 22:50

You sound a bit smug

did you mean to ?

LadyLuck10 · 24/01/2015 22:51

Goody for you then.

FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 24/01/2015 22:53

Ooooh

To think that actually 30 isnt the new 20?
JenPoll01 · 24/01/2015 22:54

Oh come on, spending £4000 on a holiday and complaining that it is impossible to save for a flat deposit?! Maybe i am smug, but i am curious as to whether this is just normal behaviour? Just a discussion.

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Choccybaby · 24/01/2015 22:54

WTF!
Sorry nothing more constructive to say

Ohfourfoxache · 24/01/2015 22:55


Biscuit
ridiculouslyeversoconfused · 24/01/2015 22:55

Yawn

WyrdByrd · 24/01/2015 22:55

They're happy with their lives, you are happy with yours.

Not much to BU about on either side really.

PoppySausage · 24/01/2015 22:56

Weird thread!

Vinomcstephens · 24/01/2015 22:57

You do rather come across as being quite smug, slightly judgemental and the teeniest bit pleased with yourself - I'm sure you're perfectly pleasant in real life but really, how others conduct their financial affairs is absolutely zero business of yours.

JenPoll01 · 24/01/2015 22:57

Theyre not though! The conversation was all a whinge about how lucky we are and how hard done by they are because they have no savings!! Its infuriating.

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Choccybaby · 24/01/2015 22:57

Oh and 30 is definitely NOT the new 20, FGS, they need to get over themselves

TheRightToShoes · 24/01/2015 22:59

Drip feed much!! Boring Shock

Lazymummy2014 · 24/01/2015 22:59

They might well regret it, but there's not much you can do about it. I don't have any savings, currently living on air while on mat leave and wishing dh and I were more sensible in our mid twenties but there's nothing we can do about it now - and we don't earn anything like your friends!

multivac · 24/01/2015 23:01

Could someone tell me what the 'old 20' was?

Only I think I may have missed it.

Fairenuff · 24/01/2015 23:03

Aaaah I have very fond memories of those child free, mortgage free holidays. Makes me feel like I had an actual life before I 'settled down' and started thinking about savings and pensions.

JenPoll01 · 24/01/2015 23:04

Well exactly, multivac. They moan constantly about how the "govt do nothing to help first time buyers" yet they spend £50 on dinner on a wednesday in a restaurant and have the cheek to say we're 'lucky'.

Apparently we're "younger at an older age" these days so it doesnt matter.

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mrsfuzzy · 24/01/2015 23:05

i spent most of my 20's partying when i wasn't working and having a good time before i settled down and had kids. only young once.

squoosh · 24/01/2015 23:05

'i have come away tonight wondering if i am alone in thinking they will regret this complacency eventually?'

You sound insufferably smug. This may come as a shock but there's more to life than a husband, 2.5 kids and a semi detached in the suburbs.

LaurieFairyCake · 24/01/2015 23:06

The thing is that your new life suits you and is er... dull and boring and normal for 28 (not a criticism, my life was that)

There's is still fun and interesting and in some ways they're right, they don't have to move out and become suburban yet til they feel the pull you have felt already.

AnyFucker · 24/01/2015 23:06

These young 'uns think they invented everything

JenPoll01 · 24/01/2015 23:08

Thing is, squoosh, my point is that they all say they want kids, house etc but cant afford it. But wonder why they have no money.

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Glitterkitten24 · 24/01/2015 23:08

I think 30 is the new 20, or the new 30at 30 I had more confidence, and gave many less fucks- and generally cared less what other people thought.

misses the point of the thread entirely

FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 24/01/2015 23:10

squoosh just articulated my thoughts.

This may come as a shock but there's more to life than a husband, 2.5 kids and a semi detached in the suburbs.

SirNoel · 24/01/2015 23:10

Don't get old before your time.
And I mean that seriously, not being snarky

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