There's a lot of back story but OH has always had DSD different days each week as his days off differ. For various reasons he is trying to get set days off but DSD mother won't guarantee he can have her those days every week so I suggested he goes through mediation and would find out the process and cost for him to decide if he wants to. At no point was I planning on doing it for him, I just said I'd get the information for him so he can do what he chooses.
Well I made the mistake of asking MIL if she knew how, she asks why and I explain the issues we are having, particularly DSD mum telling OH in front of DSD how she has a new bloke and new family, her words. This is upsetting the poor kid.
So I get a really shitty message about how I'm out of order for trying to cause problems and interfering, if he wants to do it its up to him. I never said it wasn't or I had any intention of being involved, I was only finding out how he needs to do it for him! He works 70 hours a week, has DSD on his days off, it's not like he has plenty of time.
So after I get a load of rant texts about interfering and how DSD isn't being put first (again another reason is to give her more stability) we get a call from DSD mum repeating everything I'd mentioned to MIL.
I apologised to MIL as she has got it completely wrong and apologised for not being clearer. Conpletely ignored I also sent a pic of DD yesterday before this all happened which has been completely ignored.
OH has begged me to forget about it and I said if I get even an acknowledgement of my apology then I will for his sake but I'm not going to be completely ignored and treated like a mug.
Have I really done something that awful?
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Beth2511 · 23/01/2015 10:12
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