Ok this is my first time posting.
My oh recently had his atm card chewed up by a atm machine. It took 3 weeks to get a new card. During this time he had no access to his money in his account because he lost his passport and the bank would not let him take out money without photo ID. Other than the Virgin bill, all other bills come out of my account and I generally use his bank account for day to day things or he will put some money in mine or our son's savings account. For the last month I have been paying for everything, all of christmas, all the bills, and it's been stressful trying to cover everything that my oh's wages would usually cover.
This is not the issue because I knew my oh would soon get access to his account. However he keeps going on and on about getting a ps4 with money that he now sees as saved. I think his priority should be putting some money into my account to cover the bill money, or putting some money in our son's account as he did not go out and buy one Christmas present for our son himself.
I can cover the bills just about on my own but AIBU that he seems to want a ps4 more than paying for what I have been covering. Lets say we can now afford to have that money saved, that could still go on replacing our sofa that is broken or the washing machine that is getting old. Not a £300 ps4 when he has a perfectly acceptable PS3 sitting there that is less than a year old anyway!
Am just really annoyed at him and resenting that all my money goes on bills and our son while my oh sits there playing his new game console.
I don't even want to talk to him right now. He thinks I am being unfair by denying him something he wants but I am not doing it to be a bitch, just feel there are more important things for that money right now.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To be annoyed at my oh
MissHJ · 27/12/2014 16:14
It's always worked out better this way because he is not very good with money so it made sense to use mine for the bulk of it. 
And you seriously have to ask if YABU?
How old is this freeloader? He sounds about 12. Have you pointed out to him that you and his child have had to go without things while his money was unavailable and does he still think it is OK for him to treat himself to an expensive toy?
Honestly, I am not one of those who immediately leaps on the LTB bandwagon but I cannot see why you would be trying to build a life with such a selfish adolescent.
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