my mum loves Christmas. makes a huge deal every year in the run up to it but every year it gets ruined by her drinking from Christmas eve into the next day. my dad hates Christmas and is a bigger grump than he usually is. every few years my brother also ruins the day by turning up mid dinner drunk and looking for a lift to friends houses. last year was the worst and I vowed there and then to not come for Christmas again.
we don't have extended family so it's just us, nobody enjoys it, dinner hi a ten minute affair and after the obligatory arguments i am sent home in a bad mood to spend the day alone while they drink.
I have stuck to my word and repeated every time Christmas has come up that I won't be attending. apparently im ruining Christmas for mum as it's her favourite time of year and for family.
I was going to do Christmas at home with my dd but a good friend said No way you are coming to ours. my dd is best friends with her dd and I know we will enjoy the day. again I've been told if mum finds this out she will be heartbroken and im selfish. maybe it is selfish but I think after nearly 30 years of my family's weird idea of Christmas im entitled to be.
before anyone says it yes I am aware that I won't always have my parents and or siblings around but I don't think that gives them free reign to behave the way they do. in fact I've avoided most of them for months and have had quite a peaceful time.
does anyone spend Christmas away from family?
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mommy2ash · 22/12/2014 12:40
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