I was spectacularly "wendied" or to coin an American phrase "friend poached". I'll call my friend of 9 years Debbie. So we got along great we socialised occasionally and caught up for coffee every couple of weeks. I then met ... I'll call her Jo who was new to the area. Got on well she had just started a business and asked me to do a few hours a week for her. Skint at the time so appreciated it. Jo and I were becoming good friends, she shared a lot of problems re her marriage and I helped a lot in her business. Even to the point of rushing to help out with just five minutes notice. She often said she couldn't cope without me. Then I introduced Debbie and jo. Jo became obsessed with Debbie and talked about her all the time. That was ok because Debbie is lovely but alarm bells went off when one day I was getting ready to go out with Debbie and she gets a call from Jo wanting her to work immediately. Debbie I know needed the money but my hours were dwindling away until one day when I turned up for work jo says she's giving my job to Debbie because they're badly off. Debbie's family that is. I was so hurt I remember trying not to cry.
Amazingly almost the next day I was offered another job better hours etc. So I snapped it up. Because of the time frame Debbie was never aware of the circumstances and assumed she had stepped into my job when I left Jo's. I can't bring myself to tell Debbie still as it's so embarrassing! Debbie and I remain firm friends and my friendship with Jo has dwindled to me having my texts ignored so now I don't bother. We met about a month ago after I suggested a walk with the dogs and I heard all about her problems and although one of my kids has been seriously ill in hospital she forgot to mention him. She told me about some plans she had but said she shouldn't have told me because she hadn't discussed them with Debbie. I got back in my box.
So I can handle the fact that jo has phased me out and Debbie and I are still ok. I think Debbie guesses jo and I are awkward but she needs the work. So Xmas gift? Jo and I have exchanged gifts for three xmasses but now? If she turns up before xmas with a gift aibu to say oh I didn't bother this year?
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biggles50 · 19/12/2014 10:52
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