My ex-husband isnt having the children overnight during dec as '
december is a busy month'. He does, however, come to my house once or twice a week from 6pm to help with bedtime routine. This ALWAYS ends (and middles) with my boy screaming for me and ex-H upsetting ds by being cross. So i have to calm boy and so it takes twice as long. Anyway, to the point of the thread, when ex is at my house he does jobs that i am perfecky capable of doing myself when dcs are asleep. Like empty and reload the dishwasher, hoover, mess with my washing, wipe down surfaces of kitchen (he thinks this is cleaning the kitchen). He will then announce hes done this for me like he wants a medal. Anyway, he ALWAYS loads the dishwasher in sych a way he wastes loadsnof space and pans flat at the bottom so top shelf items dont et properly cleaned. Or items wont be in straight so cups and bowls collect the water. I end up having to unload and then reload, so twice the work.
Tonight before he came i had washing to go in the dryer butwas waiting for my second load to finiah but knowing he would interfere i put it in the sryer out of sight. Once id come down, at 9pm!!!, from re-settling my boy i noticed the washer was empty and asked where my washing was. He put it in the dryer for me. EVERYTHING from the dark wash!!!! Dd's school uniform (pleated skirts), 4 pairs of (now very small) wool mix tights, two wool jumpers included. He refused to half me for school uniform too.
My mum always says i should be grateful he tries to help. But doing it wrong, and then being so pigheaded refusing to listen and doing the same repeatedly, is not helping. To me hes doing these things so he can say hes helping, but doing them badly to puss me off but i cant be pissed off as hes trying to help. I just want him to stop interfering with my house. But if i said he couldn't come in he wouldnt see the children for a month.
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AIBU?
To not think someone doing jobs that make my daily life more didficult isnt actually helping?
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CalleighDoodle · 17/12/2014 23:41
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