So, for 6 months now I have been aware of being in an abusive relationship. The 15 or so years before that I always blamed myself, and was not aware.<br>I have a 12 month old ds, had pnd, and still living with oh which is very draining and soul destroying. Plus he is getting worse as he is loosing his control. He has been violent. In front of ds too which is the worse thing, but he is good at convincing me that I pushed him too it and that no one understands or gives him any sympathy for anything.<br>I did go back to work full time recently but it was too much (nightmare very demanding job that had changed since I had gone away, and I didn't realise I would find it so hard) and and I am on sick leave for stress.<br>The main reason for going back full time was to keep independence from oh so I could escape with ds.<br>But now I am looking for part time work so feels like I will never get away from this horrible situation. It feels futile.<br><br>So, this morning, after being on the receiving end of a critical rant from oh, ('get a grip, find a job, why didn't you sort this out before, you've done everything wrong etc etc...)I think I need to do something drastic.<br>I want to hand my notice in to work, and move home to my parents to get my head straight. I did think about putting the house on the market (we jointly own it), but perhaps somehow I could keep my half of it if I get a job near my parents to keep it going until we decide what to do. <br><br>I feel so confused at the moment I am questioning everything and don't entirely trust my judgement. <br>Do you think I am being rash?