One of mine and DH's friends is hosting a big party at his house for NY. He has a beautiful big house with a huge garden and he is going 'all out' to provide the ultimate NYE party, including a DJ and fireworks.
When I last spoke to him the guest list was nearing 40 but I know it has grown since then as was talking about which of his colleagues he'd potentially be inviting.
Anyway, me and DH have obviously been invited but at the time of the party our DS will have only just turned 9 months old.
In my mind going to the party wasn't an option for me (due to DS) but I obviously have no problem with DH going.
However, DH has told me that we should go, take a travel cot, put it in a room upstairs and just leave DS in there to sleep
For various reasons this does not appeal to me because:
A) I would have to delay his bedtime until we got to the party and then feed him there straight away and try to settle him with all the noise going on in a strange environment. I'd probably be sat upstairs with him for hours and miss the party anyway.
B) If by some miracle he does go to sleep which he won't- then we'd have to wake him again when we want to go back home and no doubt have an annoyed and screaming baby on our hands for hours.
C) He's BF and still waking during the night so even if he does go to sleep which he won't I will be on edge all night just waiting for him to wake up again. And once he does I'm back at Square One (see point A)
D) I probably won't know about 50% of the guests and so I really don't feel comfortable about leaving DS in a room upstairs in a house full of strangers who will be drinking.
E) I would have to take baby monitors with me and all night I would have to sit in a quiet corner with one glued to my ear to make sure I could hear DS if he stirred. Sounds like a fun way to spend my night
There is absolutely no way I will be able to relax and just enjoy the party as my mind would completely be on DS and his safety and worrying about the loud music and drunk people scaring him whilst he lies crying in a strange noisy environment wondering where his mom is
Am I being PFB?
DH has said he won't go if I don't. How can he seriously thinks it's as simple as shove DS in a travel cot whilst we go downstairs and enjoy the party?!
I think he thinks that I'm being anti social but not one part of me wants to go because of the reasons above.
AIBU to just say no?
I reckon DH will just think I'm being a Party Pooper
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AIBU?
To not want to go to the NYE party with my baby.
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Writerwannabe83 · 26/11/2014 15:21
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