Just that really . Bit of context , myself and DH ( both early forties) ,our DD (5) and DS(1) have lived in suburban south London for 5 years and during that time we have not made any local friends , ie the type of friends you could arrange an impromptu weekend lunch with , or call up to come and help build a flat pack . Rubbish examples but I hope you get the general idea ?
DH was born and brought up 10 minutes away but his mates seem to all have moved away or emigrated . He is not the type to go for a pint with his mates (teetotal!) and goes out very rarely ( say 4-5 times per year ) with football and work mates.
I have a small group of girlfriends I have known for about 20 yrs from school days who are all in London , we meet up every couple of months I'd say .
Since my DD started school last year I have got to know and like some of the other mums but we only get together with the kids , no 'mums' nights out' that I was hoping for ! I am quite shy with low self esteem and have gone through life this far feeling that I don't have much to offer and have been quite reserved socially as a result. I am currently having counselling which is defo helping with the self esteem.
So basically , I feel like we are not part of the community , that everyone else has established networks of local friends and that it is a bit late to try and build one now ? Just feeling a bit sad as we have no Xmas invites or anything and I feel we need to set a better example for the kids .
Sorry for the ramble, any thoughts or advice very welcome .
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(Long,sorry!) To be bothered that we have no 'local' friends ?
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incensed · 22/11/2014 21:09
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