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AIBU?

to ask them to announce their intention to visit?

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MrsEames · 22/11/2014 14:14

MIL turns up without letting us know prior. Usually at tea time after school or Saturday which is our lazy PJ/films/baking/craft day.

I find it really annoying because I like a bit of a warning that people are coming over. My own mother calls before coming,as do my sisters.

AIBU to ask her to phone first to make sure it is convinient?

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BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 22/11/2014 14:34

Guests are generally invited to visit, not just turn up when it suits them. You have a choice, or rather you have a number of them. I favour not answering the door if you're not expecting someone but you could choose to say "Sorry, not now, we're doing X, Y or Z" or "We're just off out, you should have phoned first".

But you need to be prepared: whatever you do is likely to cause unhappiness. Either theirs or yours, you decide.

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twizzleship · 22/11/2014 15:23

just tell her politely that you would prefer it if she rang first to make sure it was a suitable time to visit....and if she doesn't then just ignore the knocking on the door

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BramwellBrown · 22/11/2014 15:29

YANBU, I've made it very clear to my MIL that I don't like unexpected guests and I have made her wait on the doorstep whilst I finish giving DD a bath before, bloody woman still hasn't learned so I just don't answer the door anymore

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