to be hacked off that dp hasn't/doesn't finish me off too?

[kiwicatastrophe]

How many of your dp's are this selfish?? He initiates it every bloody day and then as soon as he's come (2 minutes later) it just stops. He doesn't care if I come or not. It leaves me feeling really unwanted even when I know im not. So selfish!

[sleeplessbunny]

Selfish indeed. But have you told him?

[PiperRose]

Stop having sex with him. Tell him why.

[kiwicatastrophe]

sort of..
piper rose that's not going to make him want to finish me though is it? if he wanted to pleasure me too he would do it wouldn't he. I don't want to be some kind of chore.

[ChillingGrinBloodLover]

You might find it a lot more beneficial to tell him than a bunch of randoms on the internet.

I'm not a convenient wank sock. I wouldn't keep going back for more if I was treat like that - why do you?

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

Tell him you are not a hole to be wanked into and until he sorts his act out and gives you some pleasure then he can stuff off.

[ChillingGrinBloodLover]

x post

OK - so why are you staying with someone who treats you like a WS? and I dare say just as badly out of bed.

[NewEraNewMindset]

Kiwi you really are allowed to have some involvement in your sex life, you don't have to allow him to us you as a masturbatory tool.

Sit him down today and tell him you aren't happy with your sex life and why and what you want him to do to make it better. If he tries and then reverts back, stop agreeing to have sex with him.

[smashboxmashbox]

There is no way I would be with someone who was as crap and selfish at sex as that. Why did he make it the length of DP-ness and not get binned off at Boyfriend-ness?

[gamerchick]

Tell him you would like him to bring you off first before intercourse even happens. Some men need trained up to stop believing that sex starts and ends with their dick.

[StitchWitch]

I had a boyfriend who tried this a couple of times early on and got a proper telling off each time until he mended his ways. It's not ok, unless it's been agreed that you're up for it but don't feel like you're going to cum. Made me feel like I was providing a professional service. YANBU but you need to tell him how you feel.

[AuntieStella]

As you say DP (not boyfriend) I'm assuming you've been together some years.

Has your sex life always been like this?

What is the rest of your relationship like?

[Longdistance]

Sex STRIKE!

It's the only way.

[JapaneseMargaret]

I don't want to be some kind of chore.

And yet, it doesn't bother him in the slightest that it's a complete chore for you..?!

[lemonpuffbiscuit]

Tell him it's your turn to come first. Don't do what you usually do, what ever that is!

[Flingmoo]

There is a small possibility that the DP in question isn't 100% selfish but is maybe just a bit clueless or shy when it comes to getting a woman off... However, even if this is the case, he absolutely must learn!

[Charitybelle]

Just make sure you go first. I wouldn't even bother talking about it, just make it clear physically what you want to happen, and if he doesn't play ball, feign disinterest and say you're not in the mood anymore. Repeat until he gets the picture.
Me and my DH always do it this way round, precisely because he's too tired after he's 'finished' so it's easier to do all the fun stuff first and then get round to him.

[kiwicatastrophe]

He's not like this In other areas. and when he has made the effort it's been brilliant. its not always been like this.
Anyway it's ahem, sorted now
Nothing to see here.
Move along.. move along

[BlueberryWafer]

Could it be that DP is completely unaware that there's more to it than that? Maybe he needs a bit of guidance. Have a chat with him and just say that you would like some foreplay before the main event! Say you really enjoy orgasming from oral sex or that you struggle to finish from sex alone so would like it if you could do some other things first.

If it turns out he's a actually just selfish and lazy in the bedroom then tell him to bog off

[BlueberryWafer]

Ah just seen your last post - glad you've sorted it out with him

[Rebecca2014]

You are a cum dumper. Sorry to be crude but if you are only having sex for two minutes, that what you are there for.

[maras2]

Sheesh.I know that the clocks have gone back ......... but to last Friday?

[BlueberryWafer]

Eh?

[maras2]

blueberry Used to be that Friday night was sex night ( though usually bum sex ) back in the day.

[Golferman]

I get more pleasure making my wife gum loads first , record eleven times the other night not boasting