To keep ds2 in a cot?

[Edenviolet]

Ds2 is 2.6

He has never slept well and dh thinks he needs a little bed. I disagree as he still fits in the cot (although wakes up a lot at night but at least in a cot he can't just get out)

I think we could get a few more months out of the cot, dh has said iam "keeping ds2 a baby" and that I just don't want to get rid of the cot yet for that reason. That's not the case although if I'm completely honest this doesn't feel like the best time of the year to be packing a cot away (due to a previous loss at this time of year)

Ds2 is still quite little (90cm height and 28lb weight) so its not as if he's far too big for the cot and getting uncomfy. He does end up in our bed each night but he's always done that.
Dh is going on every single day about buying a bed. It is starting to irritate me.

[AmserGwin]

I had both of mine in cots until they were 3 I think, so I don't see why your DH is in such a rush. Can you compromise and say you will wait until after Xmas/ he's 3/ whatever?

[Edenviolet]

Other dcs were all around 3 when they went into beds. I don't know why he's in such a rush with ds2.

[whatsagoodusername]

I think DS1 was 3.5 when we changed his cotbed from cot to a bed. He was happy, didn't climb out, didn't mind not being able to get out so we just didn't.

[Bunbaker]

There is no right age, just a right time. Your DH is being ridiculous.

DD went into a bed when she could hook her leg over the side of the cot. I took the view that she could hurt herself badly if she climbed over and fell on the floor. She was about two and a half at the time. If your son is showing no sign of climbing out then keep him in a cot.

[Littlef00t]

Surely it can only make things worse if you move to a bed. Falling out of bed, wandering about the bedroom at night, getting out of bedroom and getting to yours etc.

[Petallic]

YANBU - tell DP you want to wait until Spring otherwise everytime DS loses his duvet or sheets in the night he will be waking even more in the night due to getting cold.

[sleepyhead]

Yanbu. There's nothing magic about a toddler bed and unless you're swapping the toddler over because a new sibling needs the cot then I don't see why you'd rush.

Ds1 had a drop side cot and we had the side permanently dropped from about the age of 2,but he didn't go into a bed until about 3.5 - and that was mainly prompted by him needing a new mattress.

[AristotlesTrousers]

Keep him in as long as you can. We had to put DS1 in a bed just after his 2nd birthday because he was so tall, we worried he'd throw himself over the side. It took months for him to stop getting out of bed when we put him in no matter what we did (he'd do it for hours until he'd get exhausted). We had to strip his room down as well, because he emptied all the drawers etc. At least at three you will be able to explain to him a bit better that he has to stay in bed and he'll - hopefully - have a little more sense.

[DustyCropHopper]

Ds1 was 2.4 and ds2 was 2.7, both moved into a bed due to needing the cot for the next baby. Dd (dc3 and last one) 3.4 as there was no rush and she was happy.

[Eva50]

Mine were all almost 4 when we moved them into beds by which time they were old enough to understand that they had to stay there.

[myotherusernameisbetter]

i think we were the opposite, DS1 was about 15 months - we needed the cot for DS2 who had outgrown the crib and also he was a climber. DS2 moved out at about the same age as was continually climbing out.

They both initially moved into the little low level IKEA toddler bed but DS1 was in a full size mid sleeper by your sons age.

However.......neither of mine ever got out of bed until we came to get them and we put a stair gate on their bedroom doors just in case.

In your situation, if he isn't attempting to get out, I'd leave him until the spring - is he is his own room or in yours? If the former, it could be that DH just wants his room back rather than actually being bothered that he is in the cot and I presume you don't have room for a single bed in your bedroom?

[ithoughtofitfirst]

If he fits in it and he's happy definitely don't worry about it. The only reason i've got mine (same age) in a bed is because we live in a flat and i'm not worried he can fall down the stairs if he gets out. Plus cause i'm lazy and he can make his own way to my bed if he wants to then. Not that ever does really.

[WD41]

DD is 3.5 and she's only been in a bed for a fortnight. There just didn't seem any reason to move her before that - she still fit in her cot and had never attempted to climb out. No younger DC to make way for either.

There's no rush IMO

[ShadowKat]

We moved DS1 into a bed around 23 months, because he was starting to try and climb out of his cot and we were worried that he would fall and hurt himself.

Being in a bed rather than a cot did not improve his sleep in the slightest. it made his sleep worse in the short term, there was lots of getting out before settling down to sleep and falling out once asleep.

[Notso]

I am toying with the idea of my 2.6 year old moving into a bed soon. DS2 3.10 is still up and down half the night though and I don't know if I can face the two of them getting up.

[ilovepowerhoop]

we actually moved dd into a bed at age 2 as she did not seem happy in the cot. She slept better in the bed. DS was happy in his cot until age 2 1/2 when he was a bit big for it so we moved him to a bed

[mewkins]

We moved dd to a bed at exactly that age but she has been a good sleeper since a baby. She has never got out of bed during the night - even now as a 4yo. However with a bad sleeper I would aim for about three. Muxh easier to reason with. A friend of mine moved her terrible sleeper into a bed at 2 thinking it may be the magic solution. He is worse than ever, won't settle for hours and up several times over night to climb into her bed.