I'm due to have a baby by ELCS on Monday. My older daughter is 8.5 and very sensible and good and VERY excited about the new baby. However her father (my ex) is not only blocking her from attending the hospital the day of the birth, but is limiting her to ONE HOUR late afternoon the next day. When I've argued it he's ignored me for 3/4 weeks and now finally come back today with that apparently it's "inappropriate" to have an 8 year old on a hospital ward for more than an hour. Call me crazy but I'm pretty sure other siblings of all ages are not only there way longer than an hour, but are thereon the day of the birth if not present at the birth itself on a home birth!! <br><br>Considering when I announced I was pg his reaction to my Dad was "She's only done this to ruin my reputation and cause me problems", (we split up 5 years ago and he's been with someone else that whole time - longer in fact <img border="0" src="/emo/te/9.gif" alt="hmm">) and through the pg he's told my daughter the father is someone it isn't, that he's black, that Im going to go to America to live with the father, that I'm no longer her Mummy, his girlfriend is and to call her this and her family her Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc, and has refused to clear up any misconceptions DD may have had and allowed her to think inaccurate and upsetting things for weeks before bothering to talk to her about it and clear it up. He had specifically promised NOT to take DD away this half term because obviously baby could come any time regardless of the ELCS but informed me last night he's taking her away tomorrow. A few weeks ago he said he was taking her away the day after she meets the new baby so either he's lying somewhere (not surprising, think he's forgotten how to tell the truth) or he's having her here just for that one day and taking her away before and after against 6 months of agreements just to block her from her sibling. He's also threatened to block the baby from my time with DD in the future though frankly he can feck orf with that as I'm not leaving my baby with someone else nor am I allowing the 2 girls' relationship to be blocked like this. They're sisters and have a right to get to know each other. <br><br>AIBU to think it is not in any way inappropriate at all to have an 8 year old visit the hospital the day of the birth, or for WAY longer than an hour, and in fact it is more damaging to block her like this??? <img border="0" src="/emo/te/3.gif" alt="sad">