OK so about a year and a half ago I fell out with a close friend of mine (Tabitha) and ended the friendship. We fell out after a row and friendship ended but she is mutually friends with 2 other friends of mine, 1 close (Lulu) and the other not so close (Flora).
Anyway I've not seen the not so close one (Flora) for ages, she didn't come to a birthday meal of mine etc long story. She promised to come but although we've emailed etc just not seen each other.
The other one who's close (Lulu) I see every few months and on Whatsapp etc a lot with her.
Now here's the rub - I know from FB (not on it but can see profiles) that about a year ago the not so close friend (Flora) and my ex close friend Tabitha were planning to meet. There was a comment about me eg "by the way no Super turns out she is a nutter". I wouldn't mind but the ex BFF knows she is so OOO about this as it was her behaviour and excuse that ended our friendship. Also she believed a lie she'd been told from a male friend of hers, saying something I'd said that wasn't true and wasn't nice.
I am now wondering do I get in touch with Lulu or just leave it here, no contact? I'm only saying this as Flora mentions her and sometimes says we should meet up, but I really don't want b*tching or bad feeling. I only saw the comment recently btw.
thanks
AIBU?
friend dilemma
SuperFlyHigh · 21/10/2014 13:48
I'm confused, I thought you said you were in contact with lulu still and it was Tabitha you had fell out with 
You're not on Facebook but you sat there scrolling back a whole year and reading the comments on your friend's timeline?
Why?
I'd just leave it now honestly.
Mum yes I totally agree, this was a whole 8 months after the incident where Flora was really out of order.
If you want to know the saga, basically we'd booked to go on holiday, her, her mum and dad and her 3 year old DD, had been booked since January I'd paid 400 GBP as deposit.
Then in April her on off SO (father of her DD) announced that he wanted to come on holiday and not me, and she agreed because they'd only had a weekend in Ireland and she'd been BF at the time. She told me by email and also another friend mentioned it to me but I dismissed it saying "no Flora wouldn't do that to me". Anyway she wondered why I got angry, she then disinvited the SO and invited me of course I told her to sling her hook. There was also another part to this where she said she thought I'd lied about something quite serious (I hadn't but another male friend of ours lied about me saying something about her this all sounds really playground stuff). After that I told her if you think I've lied about that too then opur friendship is really over.
And from that she called me a nutter! 
Magic the fictitious names were to avoid outing people but in my last post I named Toni and Yvette as their real names. If they read MN then uh-oh I suppose fireworks may be in order.
Anyway there's drinks next month with all of us, and me and Tabitha will either be squaring up to each other and me fighting the urge not to smack her in the mouth or we'll just be doing the cats bum mouth look at each other all evening. FUN TIMES not!
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