In a nutshell, DP never had a close relationship with his parents until I encouraged more contact when DS's born,
I've always been a bit awkward around them as they are very judgmental but they are DS's only grandparents and i wanted them to have a good relationship with them so I included them in EVERYTHING. We have spent every single 1 of our 15 christmas's with them until last year when we had a very bad falling out.
I assured them that I would never hinder them seeing their grandchildren but they have chosen to visit less frequently as they say they feel awkward and unwanted.
I am never there when they visit as I think the atmosphere would be horrible but they see this as being unacceptable.
DP does not want things to go back to normal as he would find the atmosphere too false.
He says if there want this to happen they should make the first move by phoning me to try and clear the air. They have never done this but instead pile the guilt on DP.
They have threatened him with disinheritence which he has never cared about so when that had no effect they said they would disinherit their grandchildren which we don't care much about either.
I think it is more a power struggle with them as they have always been able to bully DP but as I am a grown woman they can't bare that they have no control over me.
FIL has a fairly dodgy heart and now we are getting the ''I won't be here much longer" card.
So why do I feel guilty about the prospect of them not spending xmas with us?
If they did spend it with us it would take all the pleasure out of it for DP and I and haven't I done my bit already?
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happyclapper · 19/10/2014 15:12
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