DS is 8 and has suspected as and ADHD. When he was young things were great he had friends but then I have no idea why but the head of the 'clique' took a great dislike to me and my DS.
I was at a party watching him and he was doing nothing wrong he wasn't even playing anywhere near her son when she shouted "space bound I'm sorry I can't sit here watching your son bully mine any more" I apologised profusely and she started shouting at me in front of all the mothers.
The next week she approached me again in front of all the mothers and said my DS smashed her DS face in at school and why haven't I done anything. I replied sorry and said the school hadnt informed but that I would deal with it. I spoke to the school who told me that her son didn't have a mark on him and that the entire class including her son had said my DS did nothing.
So I didn't punish him. She attacked me again screaming and shouting in front of the other mothers that my son had hit her son. At this point I said ok why don't we speak to the teacher together. She backed down pretty quickly and changed her mind. I said fine I'll stop ds playing with your son.
Well when this happened people began talking behind my back with her and stopped their dc playing with ds.
Every day DS would come out of school crying because the boys in school were bullying him with her son being the ring leader.
I spoke to the school and they said they would keep a eye out. A couple of weeks later head approached me to say that ds had been victim to some pretty horrific bullying. Which when I asked ds was carried out by her son and his former friends.
The bullying involved pulling his trousers down, hitting him with sticks and spitting on him.
I have managed to stop the bullying but ds has no friends now. He came out of school crying today because two girls were laughing at him for having no friends.
I want to move his school but this is difficult as dd more severe autism has settled at school with full 1:1. So taking both dc to seperate schools in opposite directions will be hard.
Also I don't want to interrupt his education. Would you move him? he is 8yo btw. I and the school are fairly certain he did not harm her son and I think sadly it's because she works in my doctors surgery and knows I suffer a psychotic illness (that could be me being paranoid).
Also annoyed as his previous best mum who I bump into a lot keeps telling him he can go round for a play date which never materialises. Leaving me dealing with constant questions.
I am scared if I move him he will because of his disabilities find it hard to make new friends in new school and will have his school work disrupted for nothing.
I don't know what to do while ds is not a bully he can sometimes be a bit boisterous owing to his disbabilities.
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Spaceboundeminem · 01/10/2014 16:24
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