Long story short - had DD IN January, fairly normal birth but long pushing stage, nasty tear. Huge delays in stitching me up (4hrs). Felt "wrong" down there for a while - like it had been sewn shut - and eventually after lots of chats with midwives who said it was all fine was referred to gynae who diagnosed a skin flap had grown over my vagina. At no point had sex been physically possible - just too small. Was only referred to gynae when I screamed in pain over routine smear. No way a speculum would fit!! It's now been 10 weeks since a simple fix operation and I've had sex 4 times (after getting the go ahead from the gynae surgeon). I've cried each time. It really really hurts. I'm using lube but it doesn't seem to help. Will this ever be normal again? The surgeon is pleased with his work (phnar phnar) and says it will be painless soon enough but I've now been discharged and feel like he's washed his hands of me before I'm "fixed". I am sad at the loss of my sex life but that's notmal with a baby. Less normal to cry in pain during sex I reckon?! Posting here for traffic, hopefully someone has a similar tale. Husb has said, hopefully, that maybe it just takes practice....
(And as a second AIBU, is it sensible to bagsie a C Section should I ever get my vag back, to keep it intact?! Of course, would have to have a shag to get pregnant in the first place....)
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Givemecoffeeplease · 30/09/2014 18:13
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