To get irritated by the "self lovers" on Facebook?

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

I know I don't HAVE to be on FB but it's handy for communication in general. However...I find some of my friends get RIGHT on my tits with their regular self congratulatory posts.

"3lb lost in one week! Having a well deserved glass of wine!"

"Worked three nights, cleaned the house and baked a cake...patting myself on the back."

What do they want!? Congratulations for perfectly ordinary achievements!?

I can't bear it! The whole "well deserved" and "didn't I do well" brigade need to keep it in a bit!

Do you do this? WHY!???

[Thebodyloveschocolateandwine]

Oh love those posts as I can take the piss.

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

But what do you say that doesn't come over as mean?

[Tinkerball]

No but I've blocked someone for this and other completely inane stuff, like "busy day, got to get up and get the kids to school and then off to work"... Regular stuff but she posts this most days!

[LadyLuck10]

You can treat it like the many similar posts you see here. Just don't click or hide it. Yanbu btw but hey everyone's free to express themselves.

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

It's my very best friend who is doing it most. I want to say something but she'll take offence I know it.

She's perfectly reasonable and sensible in every other way. Except this.

[SouthernShepherdess]

Perhaps FB isn't necessarily bragging to the world about how wonderful they are, but more of a vessel to make themselves feel better. Some people struggle motivating day to day, and these things can be big achievements sometimes. Often people post for themselves, it makes them feel better and works for them. People are free to post what they choose on their own fb wall! So I think you are being a bit U.

[MrsPnut]

People do it in real life too - I sat next to someone collecting from Cubs a few weeks ago who was moaning about being so busy because she'd just started a job and that she hadn't been able to attend the PTA meeting because of cubs.

I'd been up at 6am, walked the dog, done breakfasts and packed lunches, been to work, come home, cooked dinner, walked the dog, dropped off at cubs, been to the squeezed in PTA meeting and was collecting from Cubs.

I just nodded at her and put her on my avoid list.

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Its so annoying. The worse culprit I know posts anytime she's lost 1/2 pound at slimming class but strangely doesn't post anything the weeks she's gained a pound. I sound like a cow but it grates.

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

Southern I see that. But maybe it's because this friend in particular is very confident in herself and very busy/high achieving. But it's as if she needs to TELL EVERYONE EVERYTHING for some reason. Why can't she just get on with it?

[ThursdayLast]

I think you're being a bit U.
I see nothing wrong with a bit self-congratulation.
I'd much rather that than read my friends promoting/selling something, or posting obliquely about 'a certain someone'.

[SouthernShepherdess]

Well if she's that kind of nature as you say, so bragging then all the time, that would get on my tits too.

[Eminybob]

My mum does this. Every single morning she posts about how she slept and what a chore it is to get out of bed.

She will post about the dinner she is cooking and will have to put homemade in the post so we all know it's not from a packet.

And she comments on every. single. post. from any of her friends.

She really thinks she is far more interesting than she is. Can you tell it winds me up

[LoveTap1664]

YABU

What's wrong with a bit of positivity? It's a free world and that's what facebook's for, in the same way that AIBU is a vessel for unreasonable people looking for support from other grumpy souls.

[freshlysharpenedpencils]

oh dear - this might be me :-( I've recently been on a diet and posted that i was proud of myself and having a slice of cake. don't know why i posted it to be honest. I suppose that it's pretty tough (for someone like me) to eat healthily and go to the gym every day so maybe i wanted some praise to keep me going? Or maybe I was just proud of myself. All my other posts are 'comedy' about daily observations. I'm sorry if I have annoyed anyone though.

Think we all have posts we hate. I hate really negative stuff day after day after day.... Like 'Hate my job, 'feel so low today. 'Some people should just shut up', etc. I always try and be happy and upbeat on FB.

[Staywithme]

I'll gladly swap you for one that constantly effs and blinds, bitches and moans about work, neighbours, etc. She trys to come across as a tough cookie but just looks like a tool. Would love to block her but waiting until the time is right. Very complicated.

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

Southern that's it! It IS bragging. In her case it is bragging...no question. Other people might say something once in a while like "I've almost finished my degree....feel so relieved that I'm doing ok and excited to be a nurse" and that's fine! But the constant "Aren't I GREAT!?" posts are awful!

Eminy she'd love my mate! they could adore one another all day!

[joanofarchitrave]

TBH I much prefer 'Lost 3 pounds!' posts to 'Shafted again, I know who my real friends are' PA ones. Let them celebrate. FB isn't compulsory, come off it for a bit if it's spoiling your friendship. You probably won't even notice it's gone I managed about a fortnight

[Latara]

It's annoying; but preferable to all the 'Britain First' & 'Right Wing News' sharers!

[ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties]

Joan ANYONE indulging in that sort of shite is deleted from my account...if I've made the unfortunate mistake of friending them in the first place! Latara same with that.

[lynniep]

YABU. I get that some are more irritating than others, but yes one of my fb 'uses' is as a vehicle for self promotion for me and my family, and its the same for all my friends. Everyone is wonderful and supportive, and I try to be so for them. Small things make a difference in our mundane lives. If my friend has lost 3lb she's done brilliantly and is rightly proud of herself, so I back her up and congratulate her. Its motivating.

[SaucyJack]

Another one who prefers the "bragging" posts to the PA vaguebooking or out and out whinging.

Also, the most vocal dieters on my Flist are all dealing with serious long-term eating and low self esteem issues. I have a lot of respect for them tbh.

[MTWTFSS]

This is when people get unfriended

[Topaz25]

I must be in a minority here, I'm happy for friends when they achieve things like cleaning the house or losing weight. I'm working on these things myself so I know they can be important to people. Why not celebrate the small victories in life? I prefer it to people who are relentlessly negative and post every little problem on Facebook.

[bendybrickpumpkinpatch]

I quit facebook two years ago. I genuinely dont miss it.
I hated the stealth boast posts, the goady posts and the pretend Instagram lives. I hated the " having an amazing time on holiday, love my kids so much " posts when in actual fact I know they had a shit time and the kids drove them mad cos they told me in REAL LIFE !!

I just use Twitter now. God I love Twitter.

[WhatAHooHa]

My sister does this, actually adding a whole list of the jobs she's done that day. So regular updates are... "hoovered and dusted, done washing, ironing and clothes put away. Dinner cooked and washing up done, garden tidied, phew! so tired now!"
I wonder does she honestly think anyone cares?!