So DP and I are childless. Recently lost our fourth pregnancy - we got further with this one than we had before, so it hit hard when we lost it. I was very depressed about it all and it has taken a long time to get back to anything near 'normal' at work and at home. DP had been very supportive - more so than before and our relationship seemed stronger. Parents have also been supportive, albeit from a distance.
A few weekends ago I visited my parents, who are getting older and finding it more difficult to do things around the house etc. Adult DB still lives with them but as I understand does not help as much as he could/should . Anyway, when they went upstairs for a nap, I thought it would be nice if I cleaned the kitchen for them - they had been away and it was a mess. Was doing so when DB walked in and saw Id put leftover food out for the dog and he thought I shouldn't have. I disagreed with him but while we were talking about it he suddenly picked it up and threw it out. When I asked him why he did that when we were still talking about it, he started swearing and cursing at me, coming quite close. It woke my Dad up who tried to usher him out of the room but not before he yelled ' I don't know why we have to be so nice to you all the time - 'ooh don't upset the princess' and more swear words. The whole episode left me shaking and quite tearful (I still don't know where/why he started swearing - we were just talking!?) - this was someone I'd texted only yesterday that things were still raw. Anyway, my parents were very nice to me till I went home later that night but I left without talking to him again.
It had been bothering me and getting me quite down so I thought I'd talk to DP about it a couple of nights ago - could not have gone worse. From the first sentence, he started accusing me of 'whats the problem, what wrong with that' and I got more and more emotional as I tried to explain. It somehow ended up with him yelling at me about historical arguments we've had (that I've apologised for before) and essentially yelling at me ?about the way I talk to him (can't really remember now, was crying too much). Again, I was shocked by his yelling, and hurt that he wasn't even listening to what I was upse about in the first place. I walked out when I couldn't take any more and we haven't spoken since.
Feeling in a really shitty place right now. Not really sure what to do
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whenwilliwakefromthisnightmare · 11/09/2014 18:24
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