DM has been with her DP for six months. She told me they were dating end of April so I've known about it for four months. I've met him three times, the first time was six-ish weeks ago. I don't know him at all and I'd hazard a guess DM doesn't know him all that well after six months together... However she does have prior for moving way too quickly in relationships. They seem to be currently glued to one another, we haven't seen DM without him attached since we first met him. For another thread I guess.
The problem is- DH and I are NC with our Fathers for various complex but worthy reasons. It's not ideal, I wish it wasn't that way but it means DC don't have a Grandfather. DD (3) assumed that the man with her DGM was grandad the second time they visited, I had to spend a long time sat with her explaining what a Grandad is and how he isn't hers, he's just Grandma's 'special friend'. I thought she'd grasped it but clearly not because yesterday when they visited again DD ran over to him shouting Grandad! To which my DM said "Aww DP, you're Grandad now!" In a jokey way, I gently reminded DD that he isn't Grandad and to call him 'DP'. All was ok until they were about to leave and my DM said to DD "Go give Grandad a cuddle." Most definitely not in a jovial manner . So I firmly told DM "he's not Grandad, you can't tell her that. It confuses her, I had to spend a long time explaining to her who he is and why he's not Grandad." Mum just replied "well it was DD who called him Grandad." And they left.
It's been irritating me ever since. Once again I had to reiterate to DD when they left who he was and not to call him Grandad. I wouldn't mind so much if it was her DP of years who was my stepfather and I loved him like a father but calling her DP of six months Grandad is not on, is it? Aibu to be so annoyed over this?
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Or is my mum I.e DC calling her new DP Grandad...
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mousehop · 03/09/2014 17:02
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