I think Dh is being a dick. Aibu?

[Cluffyflump]

I'm ill.
Rotten bug that started as a cold, then a sick bug yesterday I couldn't move without throwing up and couldn't stay awake. I spent the whole of Sunday sleeping and vomiting
Now I'm a bit better today. Have kept some water and dry bread down but passed out earlier and having bouts of dizziness and sickness.
Dh had to go off to work and we have 2 smallish dcs at home (6&3) so I've had to look after them. I've basically slumped on sofa and crawled to the kitchen to get them junk food.
I asked Dh what time he could get home as I can't really do dinner and he went mental at me!
He has form for being arsey when I've been unwell before.
I think I've done very well today and if anything he should be being nice.

[Twitterqueen]

He is being a dick.

sorry you're not feeling well. Even at 3 and 6 though, children do understand that 'Mummy is poorly ' and will try to behave. They won't mind to much as long as you're there - even if incapable of doing much.

[Lilicat1013]

He is being a dick, make sure he gets to clean up the sick when the children get it.
I hope you feel better soon.

[MrsHathaway]

Get well soon. I have a 6 and a 3 and that's challenging when you are well.

He won't help. Give them Coco Pops and ice lollies for tea - they'll be fine - and go to bed when they do.

[KneeQuestion]

He is a dick.

[MagpieMama]

He's being a dick!

[CromerSutra]

Yanbu he is being horrible. I hate to hear about partners who are nasty when the other is ill, it's so unkind. Hope you feel better soon darling xx

[LineRunner]

My ExH was like this. To be ill is to be lazy, in his self centred world.

It's bloody awful. Sorry.

On a practical note, make toast. Or just given them juice and biscuits, or bread and milk.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

Unless he gets it and appreciates the severity of it, he doesn't sound likely to be sympathetic. It wasn't self inflicted and it's hardly a lovely day off so he's not being fair.

[CromerSutra]

Oh my god! I did not mean to write "my darling"! Sorry, I was thinking of my dd while typing! Sorry!

[DialsMavis]

Ex DP was vile when I was Ill (extremely infrequently, I am exceptionally stoic), why are they like this?

[Pobblewhohasnotoes]

What a dick. How utterly selfish and uncaring.

[Vitalstatistix]

I think it's sad that you even have to ask if you are being unreasonable to think that your husband ought to care about you when you're ill and want to help you.

No, you are not being unreasonable.

[AlpacaLypse]

Isn't there a bit in the BCP marriage service about In Sickness and in Health?

Definitely he's being an arse.

[LineRunner]

DialsMavis, good question. Is it a control thing? Tied in with selfishness maybe.

My new(ish) OH is so sweet when I am unwell. I am still at his solicitations.

[Cluffyflump]

I knew it!
I was half expecting everyone to tell me to woman up and ask if I wanted a medal for looking after my own dc I do.
I am so truly fed up with his attitude.
He phoned not long after I posted and said sorry.
I am still hacked off despite his apology. Yesterday I felt worried about being unwell because I could predict his reaction.
I can't understand it. I'm not some sort of hypochondriac, nor am I ill often.
Dc have been so lovely today so I have been lucky. Shame about their father

[Cluffyflump]

CromerSutra,
I quite liked the 'darling' bit!

[seasavage]

He is being a dick.
Passing out is a worry. Are you improving?
Have you managed any fluids.

[DialsMavis]

Control and seeing their partner as an appliance maybe, I get pissec off when my vacuum cleaner plays up mad doesn't serve me in the manner I expect it to. I hope ypu feel better soon Cluffy. The lovely DC will enjoy being fed crap for a day.

[CromerSutra]

Ok then darling, take care and feel better soon! X

[SanityClause]

Could you manage beans on toast for them?

I bet your 6yo could do most of that, themselves, with a bit of supervision.

That doesn't mean I don't think your H is being a dick. He is. And he should be rushing home to make them dinner, and to look after you. That would show he really meant his "sorry".

[SocialMediaAddict]

Order them a pizza. Hope you feel better.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

I have what you have and feel your pain, last night was horrible. Dh had to work but has just got back and made me a nice cup of tea, he's also popping out to get tomato soup and crackers. He left for work at 4 this morning. Ex h used to react badly to me being ill.

The fact that you could have predicted this reaction hints that he isn't just having a bad day.

[Sabrinnnnnnnna]

I had a similar thing last week, felt like I was at death's door.

Thankfully, dc are a little bit older, so were basically able to be feral for the day, helping themselves to (god knows what for) lunch etc. Dh left work early, sorted dinner ordered pizza for them, and cleaned up a bit. I was so, so grateful - but this really is/should be the norm when a partner is ill, isn't it?

YADNBU. Your dh is a dick. Hope you feel better soon.

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

Throw up in his favourite shoes. He deserves it.

[XiCi]

Dick isn't a strong enough word for him. Why are you with someone like this? I really just don't understand why people put up with arsehole behaviour . Did you ask him why he was behaving like that? And is he coming back to help or did you basically get told to fuck off?
Hope you're feeling better soon, when you're feeling stronger I would let him know in no uncertain terms how out order he is