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AIBU to give my daughter both middle names?

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JuniorMumber · 01/09/2014 09:56

We are registering DD's birth in an hour and can't decide between two middle names. I like both equally. Is it a bit pretentious to give her both? The logic is if we give her both she can drop one, but she can never add one in. I'm keen to give her name options for when she's older because we went for a quirky first name. The middle names we can't choose between are 'Beatrix' and 'Rosalie'. All the names involved are quite strong.

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LittleBearPad · 01/09/2014 09:57

Give her both. It isn't pretentious to have three forenames.

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tiggytape · 01/09/2014 09:57

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dexter73 · 01/09/2014 09:58

My dd has 2 middle names as there was one I wanted and one dh wanted. It doesn't cost any extra Wink!!

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MrsMook · 01/09/2014 10:06

DS1 has two middle names. One, DH and I agreed on easily. The other was my choice after a realative. There's a few with two middle names in my family.

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waithorse · 01/09/2014 10:09

Give her both. Not pretentious in the slightest. Both lovely names. Congratulations. Thanks

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FryMyFollicles · 01/09/2014 10:12

Both! My DDs both have three forenames. Why not - if they grow up and think they're pretentious, unneccessary or silly, they don't have to use them. On the other hand, it potentially gives them lots of choice for alternative names. Your choices are both lovely.

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Mrsjayy · 01/09/2014 10:14

My dd has 2 middle names I regret it because I didn't think id have anymore children and it is grand parent names I had another girl oops and its so bloody long on school report cards and offical letters she hates for filling (she is an adult) I wish we hadn't bothered

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Mrsjayy · 01/09/2014 10:15

Oh I dont think its pretentious though

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SmallBee · 01/09/2014 10:18

My DD has two middle names, we couldn't choose between them so thought why bother? Hardly anyone uses middle names anyway so it really won't matter.

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owlborn · 01/09/2014 10:19

I just went to a christening for a child with two middle names. I think it's quite normal these days and if your DD thinks it's a problem she can always just not use one. BTW, I love both those names.

Many congrats!

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teenagetantrums · 01/09/2014 10:23

I have two and they are both long names, never bothered me I drop one if I cant fit my name on form. Both my kids only have one but wish I had given them two and not let my ex get his way.

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liquidstatehasrisenagain · 01/09/2014 10:23

Actually sometimes two middle names mean there is a nice flow to the full name like in my DDs case

Hope you chose to have the two names! And congratulations.

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lottieandmia · 01/09/2014 10:24

I think it's fine to use both.

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Bowlersarm · 01/09/2014 10:26

Give her both.

I have two middle names, it's quite nice.

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 01/09/2014 10:30

DS has 2 middle names, one after my granddad and the other was a name I had liked as a first name but DH said no, so I said it has to be a middle name. Most people only use his first name and one middle name, but DS corrects them to add the second middle name as he likes it.

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MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 01/09/2014 10:31

Give her both. My DS has two, after his two granddads.

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LarrytheCucumber · 01/09/2014 10:34

I have a friend with four daughters and they all have two middle names because they think there are just so many lovely names to choose from.

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CornChips · 01/09/2014 10:37

DS has two, because I wanted my Dad's name in there and on DH's side there is a family tradition of a partic middle name. :) Works for us very well.

Also- I agree- so many lovely names to choose from!

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squoosh · 01/09/2014 10:40

I think middle names are a complete irrelevance so it doesn't matter if she has five or none.

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JuniorMumber · 01/09/2014 12:39

Thanks all - we put down both middle names and I'm very pleased with the decision.

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waithorse · 01/09/2014 13:15

Well done, good decision. Smile

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NotNewButNameChanged · 01/09/2014 13:26

Can someone please explain the need for a middle name? I know it is the 'done' thing but I don't have a middle name and I have a female friend who has no middle name. It doesn't bother us but because it is unusual it's surprising how often people say "oh, you've left out your middle name" when we've filled out an official form. Some people have actually disbelieved that we don't have one!

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AmberLav · 01/09/2014 13:50

Middle names can make you a little more unique - I remember when buying a house, the solicitor did the bankruptcy check, and there was no one there with my name (2 middle names), whereas DH had to confirm that he wasn't on of the hundreds of Name Surname's on the list (no middle names)!

But it used to annoy me as a child that I could never get anything personalised, as they all had space for 3 initials...

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VisualiseAHorse · 01/09/2014 13:52

I have two. And I'm not pretentious. I hope.

You will find that a lot of forms, let's etc only include the first middle name though.

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VisualiseAHorse · 01/09/2014 13:54

All my brothers have two, as do my sisters.

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