DH has had stomach problems for about 4 or 5 years. He's had scans, scopes etc so we know it is nothing sinister, but it is bloody irritating for him. My DM has lived with IBS for my life, so I grew up knowing about urgent loo trips, various remedies etc. DH does not have very bad IBS, I know many people have it far worse. His is a "funny tummy" rather than crippling pain, constant pooing, rushing to the loo IBS.
However, whenever he has a flare-up (roughly every 2 months, lasting a week or so) he wants me to listen to an in-depth analysis of every shit he has- colour, consistency, amount.... He goes into a small, quiet, "woe is me" mood and expects us all to ask about his stomach every hour. He gets stroppy if DS or I use the downstairs loo for a quick wee in case he needs it (we do have another one).
I do try, I alter food when he's not well to avoid spice, I shop to make sure his items contains fibre, fresh fruit and veg, make sure that there is always something he can drink (has very limited tastes ie.swears tea gives him the runs as it contains milk, ignoring the milk he takes in other forms).
He won't accept the advice that he needs to find a way to relax and take moderate exercise. He won't try ginger or peppermint to help. I think that I want to point out that if this is worst ongoing illness he ever gets he'll be bloody lucky. Then I feel guilty about it.
AIBU?
About DH's IBS (sorry if TMI)
QueenofLouisiana · 01/09/2014 09:28
Yanbu at all! Who wants to hear about anyone's poo? 
Tell him straight it stops now.
Oh my god, sounds like this is a new variant of man-flu: man-IBS 
He needs to take responsibility for his own illness, figure out his triggers, take better care of himself, stop whining about other people using the downstairs loo when he's having an attack, and most importantly ease up on the lurid descriptions of his own faeces. Seriously, does he want you to pull a sad face and say "oh, poor you, poor darling" every time
I have bowel issues of my own and live in a house with one bathroom, so I'm not being unsympathetic - he is being a twat!
Ok, thank you for your thoughts. I'll shut up with the unsolicited advice 
and point out that I don't need to hear about every or any poo.
It's interesting that it may be tea that causes a problem and I'm off to google a FODMAP diet.
Then I can pay attention to the actual child in the house, not the man-child.
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