Me and dp have booked our wedding for November next year. Sat down and talked about guest list and who we wanted as groomsmen (his choice entirely) and bridesmaids (my choice) a while ago.
I've asked two old family friends who I cherish and although we don't see each other often they mean a lot and always will, my sisters and 2 other friends. Since asking 1 of these friends I just haven't seen her, I try to contact her and she rarely replies and when she does never replies when I ask to arrange a date to meet up. She was my best friend at school, we were very close but she spent the summer 10 minutes down the road and hasn't seen me once despite my efforts. She's actually my child's godmother, but she has really been pretty useless since dd got here, as you can tell I'm hurt.
I no longer wish to invite my "friends" who seem to have time for everyone but me and my family, whatever there reasons for it I don't want to pay £65 for them to come to what will only be a free party to them when they can't be bothered in day to day life.
However I don't feel comfortable demanding this of dps massive grooms list, none of them bother with us, they are only interested in going out and getting bladdered and even when I tell dp to organise a lads night they don't bother.
I'm paying personally for every penny of this wedding and I don't particularly want people who a)barely know me, b) don't bother with my dp and c)couldn't give a shit about us as a family despite 2 of them being godfathers to our daughter!
(before the question is raised, we asked them to be godparents because before growing up and having a family we used to see them a lot, they were once very reliable friends that since having a daughter have really let us down, yes I deeply regret asking any of them, what can I do now?
Basically, would I be unreasonable to suggest we only invite close friends we see outside of work, who at least keep regular contact and ask how we are and show a little interest us?
It would actually mean not inviting my own maid of honour but I genuinely feel if I didn't message her between now and the wedding next year, she wouldn't even notice.
Feeling really let down, I think I have 1 person that isn't family that I call a true friend, sad realisation huh?
Sorry for the rant!
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Bambamboom · 31/08/2014 18:24
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