Flaky friend said she'd take me & DH out for a thankyou meal as she needed our help with something that took 7 hours in our home. It took a lot longer than we thought & I ended up feeding her. We allowed her to use the computer to scan, email etc all for a job interview & DH took a day off work for her. I literally had been let home from a 16 week stint in hospital due to a poorly IVF pregnancy.
She turned up with a new dog (without asking) knowing my pooch is currently undergoing "therapy" for nervousness. This made the situation worse. I suspect she didn't ask if it was OK to bring him because she feared I would have said "No, I can't handle that at the mo."
We agreed that the meal would be last night. As she is so computer illiterate, I booked a table online that meant we could actually pick her up en-route to which she texted. "Very much looking forward to it x"
However, upon talking to others during the day, I got some dreadful feedback about the place (Zizzi) & was advised to cancel & go elsewhere (Ask). I booked another restaurant that would have meant a 20 min drive for her & a 20 min drive for me as it wasn't in her neck of the woods. I DID try booking a table at places closer to her but nowhere had availability. Deliberately kept it at the "cheaper" end as it was to celebrate her pay packet.
I said she could either come to us & we'll go on together, that she could get a taxi or we could see her there if she drives. Her response was...
"Oh, I won't go then, as I wasn't intending to drive anywhere this weekend. The neighbour keeps pinching my parking space & I'm leaving it here to prove a point".
It's not HER space....she is lodging with her Mum at the mo as she's been kicked out by her on/off boyfriend. Tis a communal car park with no allocation.
No sorry for not booking or looking elsewhere herself, no acknowledgement that it was a thankyou from her that now wasn't, no talk of re-scheduling.
This text was received by me 24 hours ago & I haven't replied. I cancelled the second table last night.
Just feeling flat & I don't know if I should reply or not. Don't really want to get into a fight but part of me wants to raise these issues. Is there an alternative I didn't think of that maybe made ME become the issue? Is there an alternative I could have come up with?
AIBU in just not answering the message or do I need to acknowledge it politely in some way?
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birthdayballoon · 31/08/2014 14:43
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