Me and sister had discussed her, partner and niece and nephew coming to us for Xmas as they don't want to go to either my mums or his mums for various reasons. Their kids and our kids are only kids in both mine and DHs family's so thought would be nice for cousins to play together do all the Santa stuff etc. due to their work commitments and 2 hour drive to here, they would be coming lunchtime Xmas eve and going home Boxing Day afternoon.
DH has now turned round and said he doesn't want them to come
His reasons are my 3 year old nephew always gets all the toys out, breaks things (I say we will keep playroom closed and there won't be a whole lot of time were we aren't doing stuff/watching film etc for him to get anything out on Xmas eve as Xmas day he will have his own presents to play with)
He doesn't want to be hanging around on Boxing Day waiting for them to leave (we don't do anything on Boxing Day except watch TV and eat chocolate)
My sister is hard work, let's nephew run around unsupervised, takes ages to get ready to go anywhere (all valid points but since she has got together with partner and had niece she has been better. We won't be going anywhere so no need to wait around for her to be ready.)
It's not fair for boys to have to sleep in daughters room for two nights over Xmas (they love sleeping in together, they always do it when DHs mum or sister come and stay)
We might go stay with his mum at Xmas (we havnt been invited, she doesn't always have room for us and in the past it's involved renting a holiday flat - which we can't afford - and it's never Christmassy enough for me!! I get on really well with her it's just I love making Xmas extra special for the kids and doing everything my way - control freak alert!. Plus she's just got a new dog and I hate dogs. )
I suggested that we invite his mum here and his sister might not be able to get home for Xmas and so she could stay too (she lives in big city 20 min from us but would need to stay over) plus his stepmom may e here on her own as FIL will be in Thailand as usual so I would like to hae her over (she lives local so wouldn't need to stay) but he was aghast at the idea that the kids sleep in out room on air mattress as his mum and sister sleep in dds room as why should he share his room (conviently forgetting that when ds1 was a baby his mum MOVED OUT at Xmas so we could have her room as she had a housefull so stayed with her partner as they weren't living together then)
So who is being unreasonable?? I really cat see the wood for the trees
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BrieAndChilli · 27/08/2014 10:35
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