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to keep being so emotional over my son all the time?

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lomega Mon 25-Aug-14 21:03:22

I have an 8 month old baby boy and he's my world. He is such a good kid. I don't even want to go on about it too much for fear of sounding like I'm bragging and putting my PFB on a pedestal, that's not my aim, but obviously I am smitten with my LO. My DH and I think the world of him, he's such a light in our lives. Of course he has moments where he screams in our ears and throws food on the floor etc like all kids do as well, but he generally is very sweet and well behaved.

The trouble is, I keep getting stupidly tearful and emotional over him. I feel embarrassed and pathetic and fucking stupid if I'm honest (sorry for the language) because other parents who love their kids don't blub all the time (from what I can see.)
I just cuddle him sometimes and I well up, or we'll be reading/watcing TV together and something will just set me off. Is this normal? Do lots of mums have an emotional snivel in private over how overwhelming the love is for their babies? I never tend to cry if there are people around because I try to suppress it (and it makes me feel ridiculous), and I do try not to let my DS see me crying.

For example earlier today I was cuddling him and helping him (he's just learning to crawl so I'd laid a blanket on the floor) and he rolled over onto his back and said 'mama'. And that was it. It was meant to be a cute/special moment and all I could do was cry. :/ It just feels like I love him so much and it overwhelms me entirely.

I've recently returned to work from mat leave and I did have some mild PND (which was treated very quickly), so I don't know if other mums have had this and could comment on their experiences?

Sorry if this is long and/or idiotic. I just don't know if this is normal or not.

Blueuggboots Mon 25-Aug-14 21:14:16

Sometimes when I'm singing to my DS, I fill up. There was a lovely book I bought him about how much I love him and I couldn't read it to him without my voice cracking for ages. smile

lomega Mon 25-Aug-14 21:16:11

I do that too Blue. I'll be singing to him and my voice will crack...then it's spending the next 10mins snivelling into a tissue. I feel so self-obsessed when I should be focusing on making my DS laugh/be happy etc ;/

hollie84 Mon 25-Aug-14 21:17:16

I welled up over my 4 year old today grin

mummymeister Mon 25-Aug-14 21:17:52

I just found owl babies book in a book shop and my 3 DC's were going mad silly to read it. it was their fav book when young. tears trickling down my cheeks. eldest is 16 - still catches me unawares how much I love them. don't be embarrassed enjoy it.

velocity1 Mon 25-Aug-14 21:18:24

Sounds pretty normal to me! My children are all grown-ups now, but I remember reading 'Guess How Much I Love You?' to all of them in turn, and it never failed to make me teary when I thought about how much I loved them smile

MyGastIsFlabbered Mon 25-Aug-14 21:18:29

I still do this, my boys are 4 & nearly 2. I just find it overwhelming how much I love them at times.

Agggghast Mon 25-Aug-14 21:24:07

My eldest was 25 today and I sobbed to think I had been lucky enough to have her for quarter of a century!

midgeymum2 Mon 25-Aug-14 21:24:29

Yes blush! A lot of the time they can be wee monkeys and drive me crackers but there are definitely moments where my heart just melts and I get overwhelmed with emotion and the fact that they are so perfect and I love them so much and want to give them the best childhood ever and make them always know how precious and special they are...and then they do something to bring me back to earth!

Writerwannabe83 Mon 25-Aug-14 21:24:30

My DS is 5 months old and I still get tearful at times when I look at him or he does something lovely. I'm just in awe of him and feel so, so lucky to have him. As other posters gave said it's just so overwhelming the love that we feel.

lomega Mon 25-Aug-14 21:33:10

I am glad it's not just me then! I mean...it happens at LEAST once a day, is that still normal?

LocalVelvet Mon 25-Aug-14 21:35:08

YAsoBU, I do this all the time over my six year old; and I am a really non-emotional person! He is just fab though ��

fortyplus Mon 25-Aug-14 21:35:39

This still happens to me sometimes... my 2 are 19 and 20 now - both about 6'2" but they still make me go soppy! grin

paddleduck Mon 25-Aug-14 21:35:50

Yep. I'm still like this with my preschool aged dc. The staff there honestly must think I am ridiculously stupid. I cry over everything!

NewEraNewMindset Mon 25-Aug-14 21:39:08

Oh yes, I cried and still cry, even more so because he is my only and due to my age likely to stay an only. That makes every milestone even more emotional as I won't get to experience it again with another.

I think being a Mummy just releases all these powerful emotions and suddenly we are vulnerable and it's both beautiful and awful all at the same time as suddenly you become fearful in a way you've never been before.

lomega Mon 25-Aug-14 21:42:54

thanks ladies ;_;

It doesn't help I keep having nightmares people are taking him away from me and I can't find him. Turns me into some paranoid wreck.

Not stupid at allsmile
My eldest is 22..youngest (of four) is 17 and I STILL feel the same.
I recently sent the youtube 'Owl babies' story to my 20 yr old DD2 when she was feeling down at Uni... and she cried because she remembers EXACTLY how I used to read it to them grin

It doesn't change as they get older.. you just love them even more!!!!

EatShitDerek Mon 25-Aug-14 21:45:29

I must be the only one who doesn't

tohotnot Mon 25-Aug-14 21:46:10

I keep getting teary over my ds 3 starting school in a few weeks and how it will never be the same again our afternoons together. Welling up now

AnyFucker Mon 25-Aug-14 21:47:18

Erm, I still do this (very quietly) over my 18yo and my 14yo

It never leaves you, and thank God for it smile

And "Guess how much I love you' is my eldest's 'special' book .
Last Xmas I managed to find her a necklace with 'To the moon and back' engraved on it.... she is 22 and will always be my tiny baby bunny in my head.

Enjoy your little boy... being a mum IS precious!

FuckTheMagicDragon Mon 25-Aug-14 21:51:27

My boys are adults now. I still get emotional over them. If I see you lads on their way to school - all innocent and fresh faced - I have been known to bulb a bit on the way to work and blame it on hayfever.

I'm tough as old boots - no one would ever guess smile

GlaceDragonflies Mon 25-Aug-14 21:58:04

It's not idiotic at all. You love your son and that's fine.

magicalmrmistofelees Mon 25-Aug-14 21:59:49

I cried over dinner tonight telling my DH how much I love 9mo DD and how amazing and clever and special she is and how I can't believe we made her... I'm still blaming hormones wink

cruikshank Mon 25-Aug-14 21:59:56

I still have moments like this and my ds is older than yours. I don't think you ever 'get over' the fact of parenthood. It makes you vulnerable on a new front, and that doesn't go away. Yes, it's awesome and magical and everything, but still the awesome magicalness depends, to be brutally frank about it, on them staying alive, and that is something that you can only control to a certain extent. So actually I think those tears are a mode of outlet for fears related to that. Just hug him and cherish him because it's a tough old world out there and there's no harm in realising that - in fact, it would be foolish not to.

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