To ask how long you waited to officially announce your pregnancy?

(55 Posts)
fairyteepee Sun 24-Aug-14 20:37:20

By official i mean where telling anyone not just close family.

I am in the early stages of third pregnancy. We told everyone when i was 8 weeks pregnant the first time and now have a beautiful 3 year old girl.

Second pregnancy only told my mum and hubby and found out at 3 month scan we had lost baby. Am pondering how long to hold off this time am currently 5 weeks

Blueberrybaby Sun 24-Aug-14 20:41:27

Told the wider world after the 12 wk scan. Only parents & sister (not in laws) knew at about 6 weeks. Would probably do same again. Was too worried about something going wrong and didn't want everyone to know if we had suffered a miscarriage. I didn't mind my parents and sister knowing, so that's why I told them early on,

SomeSunnySunday Sun 24-Aug-14 20:41:32

3rd baby (5th pregnancy, as 2 ended in first tri miscarriages) here for me too - no "big announcement", but told people as I saw them (and did send a few texts / make a few calls to close friends who I wouldn't see) after our 20 week scan. I honestly hate telling people I'm pregnant though - not quite sure why, it just seems like making a fuss, maybe?!

BolshierAyraStark Sun 24-Aug-14 20:43:12

After 1st scan both times.

FTRsGotAShinyNewNN Sun 24-Aug-14 20:43:21

Congratulations first of all thanks

I had a mc in my first pregnancy and then went on to have a lovely pregnancy with DS(5) I wasn't anxious about anything going wrong at all that time.
6 yrs later I am now pregnant with DC2 and have been plagued with anxiety so decided to wait until after my dating scan to tell, I was 12wks3days on scan day and told people immediately.
It sounds a bit 'woo' but I think you know when you feel comfortable telling someone

plannedshock Sun 24-Aug-14 20:44:17

16wks told family then gradually told everyone else. Was super paranoid.

CripesItsTheGasMan Sun 24-Aug-14 20:45:47

Congratulations op thanks

We told parents at 6 weeks and I had to tell some work colleagues because of the nature of my job. Everyone else was told after 12 week scan.

fairyteepee Sun 24-Aug-14 20:50:51

Thank you, im thinking 16 weeks as i get to hear the heart beat again then. We lost our second at 13 weeks and had i had the scan on the 12th week we wouldn't have known until then so 16 weeks is my new point of relaxing a bit i think. smile

fairyteepee Sun 24-Aug-14 20:52:20

Having said that i get horrific morning sickness so may be problematic to keep it under wraps!!!

buddles Sun 24-Aug-14 20:55:12

Mum, dad, sis al knew when I found out at 2/3 weeks. In laws, work and everyone else at 14 weeks.

VodkaJelly Sun 24-Aug-14 20:59:40

When I was pregnant with DS (who is now 13), all friends and people who drank in the same pub as us knew when I was about 6 weeks. Thats because when we were having our first dating scan (they dont do these anymore) we saw someone we knew in the waiting room and the fucker went and told everyone where he saw us. angry

With DD who is now 19 months we told family at about 8 weeks and everyone else at 12 weeks

basgetti Sun 24-Aug-14 21:01:37

I'm 23 weeks and still haven't made an announcement! My immediate family know and I think word has spread to extended family but I haven't specifically announced it. I had a loss in December and had made the mistake of telling lots of people too early. I've also been suffering quite a bit with this pregnancy, been hospitalised twice, on lots of medication and don't really feel there is much to celebrate or get excited about yet. Maybe I'll tell everyone with a photo once the baby is born!

needaholidaynow Sun 24-Aug-14 21:02:18

1st pregnancy when i was like 6 weeks. 2nd pregnancy when I was about 25 weeks and I have got the feeling this one will be the same. I'm pregnant with my third at 19 weeks and very nervous about telling my family.

x2boys Sun 24-Aug-14 21:08:32

I had to tell work colleagues early I,m a mental health nurse and I s was /working in dementia care during both pregnancies because of the physical aspect of the job I had to tell colleagues when I found out so told everyone when I was about five/six weeks .

WorraLiberty Sun 24-Aug-14 21:10:44

As soon as the piss was dry on the sticks grin

Andrewofgg Sun 24-Aug-14 21:12:46

DW wanted to keep it to herself (at work) until after 12 week scan but her boss (a lovely, sympathetic, supportive father of three) guessed at 8 weeks, challenged her (in a good way, out of earshot of anyone else) - and then kept her secret.

We told close rellies (her DPs, my DM and DSF, our siblings) immediately the Line on the Stick, like the man from Del Monte, said Yes!

ToAvoidConversation Sun 24-Aug-14 21:13:11

We're waiting until 12 weeks (9 at the moment) although I was hospitalised at 7 weeks so had to tell a few people then.

meglet Sun 24-Aug-14 21:15:31

Need to know basis with both DC's. Mum / Dad / Sister as soon as I found out.

Gym teachers at 6 weeks.

Work by 8 weeks (I was sick and off work).

Then general friends and family after the 12 week scan.

I did have an early miscarriage at 6 weeks in between the dc's. I hadn't told work and eventually miscarried in the work toilets, I never said anything and just went back to my desk. I should have told them because they would have been lovely to me.

Andrewofgg Sun 24-Aug-14 21:15:41

OP and all other pg posters, especially those who have suffered mc - a million congratulations and flowers

2plus1plus1 Sun 24-Aug-14 21:15:55

After 20 week scan both times - would have kept it a secret longer if it had been possible! I too had had miscarriages and wanted to see sure all was well.

TOADfan Sun 24-Aug-14 21:16:23

I haven't been pregnant but I think I would tell everyone straight away. I have been trying for so long which they all know so would be happy, plus if the worst happened I would rather people knew why I was really upset and couldn't go to work etc than just start gossiping about why.

sillymillyb Sun 24-Aug-14 21:18:50

I was 5 weeks (had known about a week) when I told everyone. I'm rubbish at secrets. I was a lone parent, and was dreading the gossip so just wanted it over and done with.

Purplepoodle Sun 24-Aug-14 21:19:13

First 12 wks subsequent pregnancies about 7/8wks as people at worked asked me as I was huge

BackspaceEnter Sun 24-Aug-14 21:19:15

27 weeks. Only a couple of very close friends and immediate family knew (from 14 weeks). People were shocked. We live in a different country so was easy to hide.

BeyoncesCat Sun 24-Aug-14 21:21:27

Told close family after my 12 week scan. Everyone else wasn't told until about 6 months. Was easy as I had no bump!grin

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