I became a Dad to a beautiful boy last August. although the situation is not how i planned, i am proud to have become a father even though my visits are limited to once a month. He was changed my life for the better.
I need to explain that she is in the Midlands and i am in east Anglia, i was living in the same city as her but moved away before she became pregnant (still meeting up)
Me and his mother were FWB. We got pregnant and i told her i did not want a relationship but would support my son. We agreed to raise him together as friends.
soon after his birth things went south. Everything we agreed on she has not followed through:
- double barrelled surname (agreed then changed her mind)
- visiting his grandparents (as above)
- allowing me time alone with him (as above)
- getting christened (i refused but she stated the church only needs one parents consent)
as well as not keeping her promise she is also starting to say some very nasty things to me. not only are the totally untrue (and can be proven with text messages) It's quite obvious that she is trying to become an obstacle between me and my sons relationship.
last week i asked for her email address. I informed her that i will be sending her emails with all these requests i have made and that she can reply in her own time.
in my opinion this is the only way that i can get cast iron evidence that i am trying to make the effort and she is not letting me.
she has refused to do this.
i made the decision last week to find work and move back to the same city as her with the intention of taking a hands on role in my sons life. It wont happen overnight i know that.
So my question is .........
Am i being unreasonable to ask my childs mother to email me a response to my requests?
would you be receptive to the idea?
would you show these emails to your child in 17 years time?
have i opened up a can of worms?
any advice would be much appreciated.
Eric