I have spoken to DH on several occasions about how I feel he is a 'spare part' with regard to parenting. He never disciplines the children or makes decisions, he will always just wait and wait until I take action. For example - tonight I was ironing (exciting Saturday night, hey!) and DD (2) was struggling to do something. I could see him in the mirror imploring me to do something (he was sitting watching tv) and he didn't move. DD got frustrated and was then round my ankles crying, I said I'm ironing DD, why don't you play X with daddy?', she said no and carried on crying. He ignored her for ten mins before saying 'should I try and distract her?' by which time she was bloody distraught and would go nowhere near him.
Yesterday, I was brushing my teeth and could see DD playing with a ball with her brother. It kept going near the top of the stairs which have no gate with DD chasing it hysterically. I could see DH looking concerned but he just kept looking from me to the stairs, waiting for me to say something to them.
He has never told our 2 year old off, encouraged her to eat/listen/be polite etc and his only contribution is to possibly play if she initiates it. Everything else is left to me. He'll nag the older children but not actually do anything when they don't listen to him. AIBU to think he is an incurable sap and to stop stressing myself out with resentment?
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PeppaPug · 23/08/2014 23:43
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