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AIBU?

To think this is rude

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shareacokewithnoone · 23/08/2014 18:23

Just had car valeted, had to give colleague a lift. Car is new and shiny and smells clean.

Colleague scrapes her feet on the newly cleaned mats saying 'oh my god they are so slippy' until filth from her shoes are all over the car. Then lights a fag Hmm and my lovely car smells of smoke now. Sad

Aibu to think it's just ignorant?

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okeydonkey · 23/08/2014 18:24

That is soooo rude!! Who does she think she is.

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Vivacia · 23/08/2014 18:25

You let her smoke in your car??

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Bailey101 · 23/08/2014 18:26

The mat things irritating, but not much you can do there. The lighting up a cigarette is bloody rude though!!! If someone lit up in my car without asking first, they'd find themselves at the side of the road!!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/08/2014 18:26

If anyone tried to smoke in my car, they would be walking home! Did she ask first?

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Groovee · 23/08/2014 18:27

She'd have been flung out of mine when the fag came out!

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shareacokewithnoone · 23/08/2014 18:28

Nope.

'Why did you let her smoke in your car?'

Because she scares the crap out of me.

It's still rude though.

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MrsWinnibago · 23/08/2014 18:30

Why give her a lift if she's scary? Just say no!

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RandomMess · 23/08/2014 18:30

I would be "no-one smokes in my car" Shock

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shareacokewithnoone · 23/08/2014 18:32

I have to Mrs'its a job that means we have to go to people. And she doesn't drive.

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MrsSippy · 23/08/2014 18:33

How rude... did she ask if you minded, or just light up?

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MrsWinnibago · 23/08/2014 18:33

Ah! Well you need to learn to bloody well stick up for yourself! You're an adult and she is a colleague. What do you think she'd do?? Hit you? Doubtful.

Say "No smoking in here" and wait till its out before moving next time.

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XiCi · 23/08/2014 18:34

Fucking help, that is beyond rude. She sounds a nightmare.

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PurplePotato · 23/08/2014 18:36

If you're driving around for work then your employer should have a policy about driving/cars/smoking/and so on.

YANBU - but you need to tell her there's no smoking before you give her another lift.

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shareacokewithnoone · 23/08/2014 18:37

Mrs yeah but then I'm just going to be late aren't i?!

Some people are just so rude. Was cross about the foot thing as sell

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HappyAgainOneDay · 23/08/2014 18:42

I would choose not to give lifts any more but you are stuck. If you do not feel like asking her not to smoke, what anout a notice saying 'No Smoking, Please' and pointing it out.

Anyway, I thought that smoking in cars was known to be undesirable including business trips.

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HappyAgainOneDay · 23/08/2014 18:42

*about

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amyhamster · 23/08/2014 18:43

Shock
that is all

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RainbowB7 · 23/08/2014 18:44

Omg. She would be making her own way from now on!!!

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GlaceDragonflies · 23/08/2014 18:46

She'd be told to get out of the car and walk.

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Fairyfellowsmasterstroke · 23/08/2014 18:50

It wasn't just rude - it was a blatent display of status, ie, Im more powerful and important than you and I don't give a feck about you.

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gamerchick · 23/08/2014 18:58

The next time you feel obliged to give her a lift have a firm sounding speech first and tell her there is no smoking in your car.. before she gets anywhere near it.

I would never ever light up in a none smokers car even if they said I could. If the drivers smoking then fair dos.

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drivenbyyou · 23/08/2014 19:12

If you're using your car for work, are you (is she) allowed to smoke in it?

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Peekingduck · 23/08/2014 19:17

Your employer can't force you to give a colleague lifts.
You don't have to let anyone smoke in your car.
It's up to you what you do about it in future.

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Vivacia · 23/08/2014 19:20

If she intimidates you, but you can't avoid her as you normally would because she's a colleague then this is something for your employer to sort.

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Floggingmolly · 23/08/2014 19:31

You don't "have to" give her lifts because she doesn't drive. If not being able to get herself from A to B interferes with her ability to do her job, that's for her (and possibly your employers) to sort out.
Who decided she had to travel with you??

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