To think this is rude

(46 Posts)
shareacokewithnoone Sat 23-Aug-14 18:23:23

Just had car valeted, had to give colleague a lift. Car is new and shiny and smells clean.

Colleague scrapes her feet on the newly cleaned mats saying 'oh my god they are so slippy' until filth from her shoes are all over the car. Then lights a fag hmm and my lovely car smells of smoke now. sad

Aibu to think it's just ignorant?

okeydonkey Sat 23-Aug-14 18:24:39

That is soooo rude!! Who does she think she is.

Vivacia Sat 23-Aug-14 18:25:11

You let her smoke in your car??

Bailey101 Sat 23-Aug-14 18:26:17

The mat things irritating, but not much you can do there. The lighting up a cigarette is bloody rude though!!! If someone lit up in my car without asking first, they'd find themselves at the side of the road!!

If anyone tried to smoke in my car, they would be walking home! Did she ask first?

Groovee Sat 23-Aug-14 18:27:58

She'd have been flung out of mine when the fag came out!

shareacokewithnoone Sat 23-Aug-14 18:28:47

Nope.

'Why did you let her smoke in your car?'

Because she scares the crap out of me.

It's still rude though.

MrsWinnibago Sat 23-Aug-14 18:30:22

Why give her a lift if she's scary? Just say no!

RandomMess Sat 23-Aug-14 18:30:53

I would be "no-one smokes in my car" shock

shareacokewithnoone Sat 23-Aug-14 18:32:25

I have to Mrs'its a job that means we have to go to people. And she doesn't drive.

MrsSippy Sat 23-Aug-14 18:33:13

How rude... did she ask if you minded, or just light up?

MrsWinnibago Sat 23-Aug-14 18:33:40

Ah! Well you need to learn to bloody well stick up for yourself! You're an adult and she is a colleague. What do you think she'd do?? Hit you? Doubtful.

Say "No smoking in here" and wait till its out before moving next time.

XiCi Sat 23-Aug-14 18:34:56

Fucking help, that is beyond rude. She sounds a nightmare.

PurplePotato Sat 23-Aug-14 18:36:40

If you're driving around for work then your employer should have a policy about driving/cars/smoking/and so on.

YANBU - but you need to tell her there's no smoking before you give her another lift.

shareacokewithnoone Sat 23-Aug-14 18:37:04

Mrs yeah but then I'm just going to be late aren't i?!

Some people are just so rude. Was cross about the foot thing as sell

HappyAgainOneDay Sat 23-Aug-14 18:42:31

I would choose not to give lifts any more but you are stuck. If you do not feel like asking her not to smoke, what anout a notice saying 'No Smoking, Please' and pointing it out.

Anyway, I thought that smoking in cars was known to be undesirable including business trips.

HappyAgainOneDay Sat 23-Aug-14 18:42:48

*about

amyhamster Sat 23-Aug-14 18:43:46

shock
that is all

RainbowB7 Sat 23-Aug-14 18:44:43

Omg. She would be making her own way from now on!!!

GlaceDragonflies Sat 23-Aug-14 18:46:12

She'd be told to get out of the car and walk.

Fairyfellowsmasterstroke Sat 23-Aug-14 18:50:42

It wasn't just rude - it was a blatent display of status, ie, Im more powerful and important than you and I don't give a feck about you.

gamerchick Sat 23-Aug-14 18:58:33

The next time you feel obliged to give her a lift have a firm sounding speech first and tell her there is no smoking in your car.. before she gets anywhere near it.

I would never ever light up in a none smokers car even if they said I could. If the drivers smoking then fair dos.

drivenbyyou Sat 23-Aug-14 19:12:38

If you're using your car for work, are you (is she) allowed to smoke in it?

Peekingduck Sat 23-Aug-14 19:17:42

Your employer can't force you to give a colleague lifts.
You don't have to let anyone smoke in your car.
It's up to you what you do about it in future.

Vivacia Sat 23-Aug-14 19:20:50

If she intimidates you, but you can't avoid her as you normally would because she's a colleague then this is something for your employer to sort.

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